越來越多的年輕人試圖理解浪漫
It was "unconventional" to have romantic relationships when Hu Yue was in university in the 1980s. "There was no education about relationships," says the head of the psychological counseling center at Dalian University of Technology in Northeast China's Liaoning province.
20世紀80年代，對於正在讀大學的胡月（Hu Yue）而言，談一段浪漫的戀情是"不符常規的"。"那個時候，沒有戀愛學一說，"大連理工大學心理諮詢中心的負責人說道，大連理工大學位於中國東北遼寧省。
"Society was still traditional. People who fell in love tended to keep it secret." But it's commonplace for youth to openly engage in romance today. And a growing number of young people are hoping to learn how to handle the ups and downs and ins and outs of love.
"那時候的社會還是挺傳統的，相戀的人往往不會公開。"但當今社會，年輕人公開撒狗糧已十分常見了。此外，越來越多的年輕人希望自己學會妥善處理戀愛過程中的起起伏伏。
Every time 21-year-old college student Wang Yinuo uses the popular Chinese video-sharing site Bilibili, she checks the account of XujieMrXu to see if its operator, 24-year-old Xu Jie, has posted another video.
21歲的大學生王藝諾（Wang Yinuo）喜歡用視頻分享網站嗶哩嗶哩（Bilibili，在中國很受歡迎），每次登入嗶哩嗶哩，她都會點擊徐傑的賬號（24歲，XujieMrXu），看看他是否上傳了新的視頻。
Xu is an entrepreneur and part-time lecturer on PowerPoint presentation creation and public speaking at his alma mater, Nankai University. His videos about dealing with relationships have won him 118,000 followers on Bilibili since he started posting them in July 2017. Bilibili recommended Xu's videos to Wang, so she started to follow Xu because she wanted to know how to approach her crush.
徐傑是一名企業家，也會在其母校南開大學兼職講課，授課內容包括PPT演示創作以及公衆演講。自2017年7月他上傳有關戀愛關係的視頻後，他的粉絲已上漲至11.8萬。嗶哩嗶哩網站將徐傑的視頻推送給了王藝諾，所以藝諾也關注了徐傑，因爲她想知道該如何接近心動男生。
Xu decided to make the videos when he noticed that many single women in their late 20s wanted relationships but didn't know how to go about it. "They were successful in their careers but made foolish mistakes in their relationships and were even badly hurt due to their inexperience," he says.
當徐傑注意到：很多20好幾的單身女性都想談戀愛但苦於無從下手時，他決定製作視頻。"她們的事業很成功，但談戀愛時卻會犯一些小錯誤，甚至因爲經驗不足而受到傷害，"他說道。
"I want to tell them what men usually think of relationships and offer suggestions based on my and my friends' experiences. I hope to share more firsthand knowledge to help people dealing with confusion." About 79 percent of Xu's followers are women, and 52 percent have never had a boyfriend or girlfriend.
"我想將男人對戀愛的普遍想法告訴這些女性，並基於我個人以及朋友的經歷爲她們提些建議。我希望能分享更多的一手經驗，幫助她們解疑答惑。"徐傑的粉絲中，79%的都是女性，其中59%的粉絲從未談過戀愛。
The two most popular of his 99 videos are How to Know If a Guy Likes You and Five Mistakes Women Should Avoid When Attracting Men, with 173,000 and 164,000 views, respectively.
目前，徐傑共上傳了99則視頻，其中最受歡迎的兩個視頻《如何判斷一個男生是否喜喜歡你》和《女生在愛情中應避免犯的5個錯誤》的瀏覽量分別爲17.3萬和16.4萬。
