時尚雙語:婚前性行爲有何不妥

So, whats wrong with sex before marriage? “A lot of people look for the correct person, but they don’t worry about becoming the correct person.”

Would you like your future life partner to be somebody who has slept with a numerous amount of people and knows the body and intimacy of those who will in the future become strangers in your relationship?

Or, would you prefer somebody who wants to have that experience with you and only you because they know that sex is something serious?

Would you prefer spending your life with someone who has been within 50 different relationships, or with someone who has never had a boyfriend/girlfriend?

Does it not sound better if both can be able to learn form each others sexuality rather than permitting your partner to learn with others? Would it not sound better to be your partners first and last? Yours and only yours.

Not every body thinks this way. But be honest to yourself, isn’t this better than what common society tells us?

Now I understand that many might say that “nobody waits for marriage anymore”. But this is the exact same reason why we have so many problems when it comes to the topic of sex:

The exact same reason why people suffer from so much “emotional baggage”. The exact same reason why HIV is a top threat to modern society. The same reason why so many people die from AIDS. The top reason of so many abortions. The seed reason for why more than 50% of all marriages end in divorce because of infidelity .

So, whats wrong with sex before marriage? All that is stated above.

Now a sexual experiences is not just any type of experience. It is something that stays recorded in the mind permanently. When this is lived with someone, that person becomes more than just anybody for you.

When a relationship is over, people tend to say that “it is the past”. But the truth is that it’s not in the past because the past forms part of your present and your future. What ever was done in the past becomes part of you for the rest of your life consciously or subconsciously.

Proof of this is the knowledge you have of everything you know. This would include the alphabet, numbers, the language that you speak, the people that you know and everything that you do on the daily basis, you owe it all to your past.

So when it comes to live that moment with that special someone, it would be almost inevitable to forget the past sexual experiences from others, staining the present moment with your beloved partner.

婚前性行爲有何不妥呢？“人們都在尋找那個對的人，但他們都不擔心自己成爲那個對的人。”

你會希望你未來生活中的伴侶是一個曾和很多人發生過關係的人嗎？還是你會願意和那個瞭解你的身體又和你發生過關係的人在未來的日子裏形同陌路？

或者，你更願意某個人想要和你也只願意和你發生關係，因爲他們都知道性行爲是很嚴肅的？

你是願意和一個曾與50位不同異性發生過關係的人共渡一生，還是願意接受一個從未有過男（女）朋友的人呢？

如果男女朋友可以互相學習性方面的知識應該好過讓你的伴侶從別人那學會，這是不是聽上去不是很恰當？對你的伴侶來說，你是第一次也是最後一次是不是聽上去也不太合適？你希望你的伴侶是你的唯一。

並不是所有人都這麼想，但老實說，這不是比社會常識告訴我們的更好嗎？

現在我明白了很多人也許會說“沒有人能等到結婚”的原因了，這和爲什麼我們面對性這個主題會有很多問題的理由是一樣的。

像人們揹負太多“精神包袱”的原因，HIV成爲現代社會頭號威脅的原因，如此多的人死於艾滋病的原因，造成太多流產的首要原因，還有超過50%的婚姻都走向離婚的根源都因爲婚前性行爲。

那麼，婚前性行爲到底有什麼不妥之處呢？上面已經列舉了所有情況了。

目前性經歷不僅僅是一種經驗了，這是某種在人的意識裏留下永久記錄的事物。當某個人和你發生關係，那這個人對你的意義就和其他任何人都不同了。

當一段關係結束了，人們總是說“這已經過去了”。但事實是那並沒有過去，因爲是過去組成了你的現在和將來。過去你不管做了什麼，有意識或潛意識地它都會成爲你下半生的一部分。

你所知道了解的所有知識就是證明。這可能包括字母表、數字、你說的語言、你認識的人和你每天必須要做的最基本的事，你對你的過去是負有責任的。

所以當你和那個特殊的人到了那一刻的時候，你過去曾和別人發生過關係的回憶幾乎是不可能被你遺忘的，這也就玷污了和你所愛的人現在的這一刻。