Quora精選：人過50歲會後悔什麼？

What do people regret the most once they go past 50 in life?

人過50歲後最後悔什麼？

獲得106.2k好評的回答@James Altucher：

In six months I’ll be 50 but I already know what I’ll regret.

再過六個月我就50歲了，但我已經知道自己將會後悔什麼了。

This is the cliche answer. “If anything had been different I wouldn’t be who I am today.” Like what I am today is so great I’d never want to change it. But... I wish I could’ve done some things differently in the past and still be the person I am today. Life is pretty hard and complex. And our brains aren’t smart enough to figure it all out.

有一個回答很俗：“如果可以重來，我不會是今天的樣子。”就像我現在過得很好其實並不想改變。但…我希望過去可以做出不同的選擇但仍然是今天的我。生活很艱難也很複雜，我們的大腦也沒有聰明到能搞清楚一切。

KIDS. I wish I had spent more time with my kids. Sure, I spend quality time with them now. But I worked really hard and, I admit, I probably avoided them when they were really young and difficult to wake up and get ready for school when they were younger.

孩子。我希望過去能多陪陪孩子。當然我現在陪伴他們的時間都是優質時間，但我過去真的工作很辛苦，而且我承認可能在他們小時候還有很難叫他們起牀準備上學的更小年紀時我是有意避開他們。

MONEY. I wish for 15 years or so I wasn’t so focused on money.

錢。我希望過去的15年左右沒有這麼在乎錢。

CREATIVITY. I began my career in my 20s doing things that were really creative that I loved. I was trying to write a novel. I was trying to do a TV show. I was always around people I loved so much. And I spent time with them because I loved them and not because I wanted anything else. I wish I had stuck with that. Now, in my 40s, I’m trying to catch up. It's never too late, of course.

創造力。我20幾歲開始我的事業時所做的都是很有創造力而且自己也喜歡的。我那時想要寫小說，想要做期電視節目，我身邊都是自己很喜歡的人。和他們在一起是因爲我喜歡他們，而不是有其他企圖，我真希望一直那樣下去。現在我40多歲，要努力找回原來的自己，當然猶時未晚。

HUMILITY. When I first made some money I became a bit arrogant. I started investing in all of these horrible companies and having horrible friends. It’s the double-horrible that finally kills you. If I were humble and just went back to what I loved, I bet I’d be happier.

謙卑。我剛開始賺到些錢時有些膨脹。我開始投資很多可怕的公司，交了可怕的朋友，這些“可怕”加在一起最終毀了你。如果我當時謙遜一點，回去尋找我所喜歡的人和事，我敢打賭我會更開心。

CONFRONTATIONAL. I couldn’t say “no” to people. I still have a hard time with that. I wish when someone does something that I don’t like or agree with that I would say “no” a bit more often. I’ve gotten into a lot of bad situations because I didn’t say “no”.

抗拒。我過去不會對別人說“不”，現在也覺得很難。我希望過去有人做了什麼我不喜歡或不贊成的事時我能多說幾次“不”，因爲沒有拒絕我多次陷入艱難的處境。

Here’s two cases where I should have said “no” more often:

以下兩種情況我本該多拒絕幾次：

-- When someone treats me bad.

—有人對我不好時。

-- When I don’t want to do something but I feel bad about hurting someone.

—不想做什麼事又不想傷害別人時。

Anyway. If I had a time machine would I go back in time? I’m not sure. It's ok to feel regret sometimes.

不管怎麼說，如果真有時光機，我會回到從前嗎？我不確定。有時有點遺憾也沒什麼。

I thumb through it like I would a deck of cards with pretty pictures. I would have held my daughter’s hand when she came home from school. And I would have taken her for a walk around town. And she would’ve told me about her day. And I would ask her lots of questions. I'd listen while she talked and talked. She would tell me everything. And we’d walk for a really long time, until the sun went down and I’d try to tell her the names of all the stars above us. Even if I had to make it up.

我回憶往昔，就像拿着一副帶有美好照片的紙牌。女兒放學回到家我會握着她的手，帶她在鎮上轉轉，她會告訴我她一天的事，我會問她很多問題。我會聽她說呀說，她什麼都會跟我說。我們會一起走很久很久，直到夕陽西下，我會努力告訴她天上所有星星的名字，即使有些還要編。

（翻譯：菲菲）