比化妝更美：女性要提高7大魅力

Many women think that the key to beauty lies in the bottom of their makeup bag. There are a million and one reasons why women believe this: they’re judged on their appearance, pop culture and mass media support those judgements, and big business makes its money off shamelessly promoting the before and after effects of their miraculous products. The truth is, being beautiful doesn’t come from a lipstick tube, mascara wand, or blush brush. The following seven factors create a more lasting impression than any amount of makeup ever could:
大部分女人都覺得美麗的關鍵取決於化妝包。成百萬的理由中有一個就足以讓她們堅信不疑：這是個看臉的社會，流行文化和大衆傳媒支持看臉，而那些大企業也無恥地在化妝品上漲價謀利。事實上，變漂亮不僅僅是塗個口紅刷上睫毛弄個腮紅那般簡單。下面七個做法能比任何妝容提供更長久的美麗哦：

1. Her passions
激情

A woman who is without passion is one dull woman. At times life can feel like a Mack truck, ready to roll over us all at a moment’s notice. It’s hard for a woman to slow down and take time to do the things that truly bring her joy, but when she neglects the part of herself that ignites her, then she is living a passionless existence.
沒有激情的女人毫無魅力可言。有時生命就像一輛大卡車，時刻準備着一個不留神碾壓我們一下。讓女人放下腳步花些時間來真正享受點什麼非常困難，但如果她完全忽視能激起自己激情的部分，那麼生活也就頓時索然無味了。

A woman who takes the time to follow her passions, whatever they may be, understands that life is too precious to speed along without enjoying the ride. A woman who enjoys all that life has to offer, not just her partner or her relationships, is a woman who others admire. Why? Because passion is contagious. Watching someone pursue her dreams is just about the most beautiful experience human beings can have.
不管怎樣，都要知道生命如此寶貴我們不能一味前進忽視欣賞路邊的風景。那種享受生活帶來一切、不僅僅是愛人或感情的女人，纔是讓大家所豔羨的。爲什麼？因爲這種激情會傳染。看着別人追求自己的夢想也許是人生最美麗的場景吧。

2. Her compassion
體貼

A cold-hearted woman may love herself, but who loves her back? Think about this. If a woman is incapable of feeling for others, who will feel for her? Compassion, whether one is a mother, lover, colleague, mentor, or friend, is the adhesive glue that holds relationships together. Though self-absorbed celebrities are splayed over the front covers of the magazine rack, most men don’t find narcissists all that appealing.
冷酷的女人也許只愛自己，那麼誰又會愛她呢？想想吧，如果一個女人無法體會別人的感受，那麼誰會去體貼她？體貼，不管是母親，愛人，同事，導師或是朋友，都是牢牢把關係黏在一起的膠水。儘管那些自我陶醉的名人們頻繁出現在雜誌封面，大部分男人也不會覺得她們有多迷人。

The reality is, if a woman loves herself more than she is capable of loving another, the only beauty she can boast of having is skin deep. A woman who understands how to give and receive love is much more desirable than a woman who has none to spare.
事實上如果一個女人愛自己多過於愛別人，那麼她所擁有的美麗也是膚淺的。一個懂得如何給予和接受愛的女人遠比只知道愛自己的女人美麗的多。

3. Her mind
思想

There is a popular myth in our culture that a beautiful woman isn’t smart. In fact, this stereotype condemns women in two ways because the implication is that smart women aren’t beautiful. This is a lose-lose scenario. If a woman looks too appealing then she can’t have anything going on upstairs, and if she “has her nose in a book” then she can’t be a looker.
似乎我們總覺得聰明女人比較笨。實際上，這句話從兩個方面批判了女人，隱含的意思莫過於，聰明的女人都不漂亮。這是一個雙輸的場景：如果一個女人看起來非常美，那麼她就不能有什麼拿得上臺面的才華，如果她“腹有詩書”那麼就不會好看到哪裏去。

A woman who doesn’t take time to cultivate her mind is like a writer who never reads books. Neglecting one’s intellect is similar to shouting, “I don’t need to understand the world — the world needs to understand me!” Life doesn’t work like this. The pursuit of knowledge and truth is not only attractive, but essential to our existence. Knowledge is empowerment and empowerment is sexy.
不願意花時間培養思想的女人就好比從不看書的作家。忽視一個人的智慧就好比大喊“我不需要理解這個世界-這個世界需要來理解我！”生活不是這樣的。對知識和真理的追求不僅有吸引力還對我們自身至關重要。知識就是力量，這股力量極其性感。4. Her fun-loving spirit
追求樂趣

Ever tried to have fun with Debbie Downer? It’s really hard to share the same space with a Negative Nancy and here’s why: No one loves a mope. This is not to say that a woman must be Positive Peggie all the time. A woman can and will taste disappointment in her life just like everyone else. The point is, a sense of adventure and appreciation for all that life has to offer is more attractive than relentlessly sticking to routine and taking life’s opportunities for granted.
有沒有試着跟Debbie Downer玩過？跟一個滿滿負能量的人共處一室真的不容易，爲什麼呢：沒有人喜歡憂鬱的人。並不是說女人要一直傻了吧唧的瞎樂觀。女人當然可以像其他人一般品嚐生活中的失望。關鍵在於，對生活給予的一切都要有一種冒險欣賞的精神，這會讓人更有魅力，千萬不要固守成規把一切機遇都看成理所應當。

If a woman can’t relax enough to take a spontaneous walk with her child or sing her favorite song in the shower, who wants to join her? Her child doesn’t dare ask her, and her husband doesn’t dare climb in the back of the tub — capiche?
如果女人不能完全放鬆跟孩子散步，抑或洗澡時唱唱自己喜歡的歌，誰願意與她爲伴？她孩子不敢問問題，她丈夫不敢與她共浴--明白了麼？

5. Her resilience
堅持

Nothing is more beautiful than a woman who refuses to give up. Tenacity, whether in one’s career, marriage, or physical health, is inspiring. The world loves a fighter. Please don’t misunderstand. This isn’t a call to arms or some sort of ultra-feminist mantra. Fighting over what to have for dinner or which movie to see afterwards, that’s just not pretty.
沒什麼比不認輸的女人更有魅力。堅持，不管是對事業婚姻還是健康，都是鼓舞人心的。世界歡迎戰士。但也別誤會。這不是召喚那種武裝或某種程度的極端女權主義者。去想想晚上吃啥，看看什麼電影，這不是美。

Give in a little, girl. Resilience isn’t about a woman’s control or refusal to cede control over to another. It’s about believing that life can never defeat her unless she allows herself to become defeated. Accepting the worst or the best in equal stride, acting in such a way that either outcome will not control her, that’s beautiful.
妥協一點吧，姑娘。堅持與女人的控制力或拒絕失去控制無關。並相信生活永遠不會打敗她，除非她自己允許被打敗。接受最壞的一面也接受最好的一面，這樣無論什麼結果都不會控制到她，這纔是美。

6. Her confidence
自信

Speaking of beauty, let’s talk about boasting. There’s a fine line between bragging and being confident. Bragging is when a woman deliberately describes herself in a self-congratulatory manner so that others will do just that: congratulate her. Seeking out praise for the sake of one’s ego isn’t just selfish — it’s ugly.
提到美，我們來談談自誇。自誇和自信直接有着明顯的區別。自誇是一個女人用一種自我鼓舞的方式描述自己，其他人唯一需要做的就是祝賀她。爲了自我實現來贏取誇獎不僅僅是自私-還很猥瑣。

Confidence isn’t about wanting others to notice us and wanting them to tell us how good we look, speak, think, or act. Confidence is about a woman feeling proud of how she looks, speaks, thinks, or acts. A woman who doesn’t need other people’s reassurance to help her feel this pride in herself is infinitely more appealing than a woman who incessantly seeks others’ approval.
自信不是說要別人來注意到我們，讓別人告訴我們有多好看，多會說話，多有思想或者舉止多麼得體。不需要靠別人的認同誇讚來提高自信的女人遠比那些不斷希望得到別人認可的女人有魅力的多。

7. Her energy
能量

Finally, the most beautiful quality about a beautiful woman can be summed up by the total effect of all of the above. It’s her energy. A woman who has an unmatchable vitality for life is and should be idolized. Set her in stone or marble, if she will stay still long enough. Cast her in bronze, something timeless. When a woman follows her passion, shows compassion, pursues her intellect, keeps a sense of adventure, refuses to give up, and believes herself to be worthy, then her energy will be the spark that lights up everyone and everything around her.
最後，一個女人最重要的魅力特徵莫過於包含了上述的一切。那就是能量。一個對生活有着無盡能量的女人可以也應當被膜拜。如果一直保持如此，那真該刻在石頭或大理石上，甚至青銅器上也不爲過。若是一個女人能追逐她的激情，展現她的體貼，追求智慧，保持冒險精神，不放棄，相信自己值得一切，那麼她的能量會如煙火般照亮身邊的每個人和每件事。