社交魅力課堂:7個好習慣讓你更有魅力大綱

There's no question that charismatic people are some of the most successful individuals out there. Professor Wiseman at the University of Hertfordshire in the UK estimates charisma is 50% innate and 50% trained. They key ingredients of charisma are simple actions that, with practice, become a part of your personality and improve your interactions with everyone around you, increasing your overall satisfaction with life. Here are 7 qualities of charismatic people that you can incorporate into your life.
毫無疑問，你身邊有魅力的人都基本上都屬於最成功的人士。英國赫特福德郡大學懷斯曼教授證實，魅力一半源於天生，一半來自後天。他們列舉了提升魅力值的行爲，通過練習，使這些行爲融入到性格里，來提升與周圍人交際的能力，從而提高你整體的魅力值。下面是提升魅力的七個好習慣。

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1.做一個積極的聽衆

When you listen, give them your undivided attention and ask questions. Do NOT check your phone more than once in a conversation – better yet, don't check it at all! A study by the University of Colorado found that active listening helps avoid misunderstandings and opens people up to get them to say more. Actively listening will improve communication with those around you, whether you're working with them or living with them. People tend to remember good listeners as positive people.
當你是個聽衆時，一定要全神貫注，別忘了問點問題。不要在談話過程中超過一次查看手機——最好的是，壓根就不要看手機！科羅拉多大學的研究表明，做一名積極的聽衆可以避免誤會，同時使說話人說得更多，增強你與周圍人的聯繫，不管是同事或是室友。人們總是能會把好的聽衆看成積極正面的人。

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2.語言表達清晰

Take your time and think about each sentence. The more you speak with unnecessary filler, the less clear you are. Especially when speaking to more than one person at once, or to a new group of people, practice your approach beforehand. Am I saying everything I need to say? Is everything I'm saying necessary? Is there a clear objective and purpose to what I am saying?
花點時間想想你要說的每句話。你說的廢話越多，語言表達就越不清晰。尤其是在和不止一個人或一羣人對話時，一定要先練習一下你的說話技巧。我說的都面面俱到了嗎？我說的都是有必要說的嘛？我說的這些話裏有明確的主題思想嗎？

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3.發自內心的微笑

A genuine smile from within shows on the outside: you smile with your eyes and mouth. Not to say you have to walk around with a grin all the time! But when you smile on the inside, people are more receptive when you approach them. The women with a Duchenne smile were more likely to be married and stay married than those who had a fake smile, and were more likely to experience greater sense of personal well-being. When you smile from the heart and follow up with a kind personality, you will get more and give more to the world than you ever thought possible.
真正的微笑是從內到外散發出來的：你的眼睛和嘴都在笑。這不是說你要一直咧着嘴笑！而是當你微笑的時候，要發自內心，這樣人們才更能接受你。相對於比起經常假笑的人，有着杜鄉式真正微笑的女人更容易嫁出去，婚姻也可以保持更久，還更能體驗到一種獨屬於自己的幸福。當你發自內心的微笑，你會向外界給予更多，同時也得到更多，這會完全超乎你的想象哦。d Up Tall
4.站直點

Imagine there's a string running from your navel, through your head and up into the ceiling. It's an old dancer's trick, and works for the rest of us to maintain great posture throughout the day. Good posture makes you appear secure and confident; if you're not feeling that confident today, fake it until you make it! Remember to keep your shoulders down.
想象一下，從你的頭沿着背部到天花板，一直有根棍子在支撐着。這是舞者訓練的老方法，也可以幫助我們來糾正自己的站姿。好的站姿讓你更加自信，如果今天感覺底氣不足，那麼就站直了直到你成功！當然千萬不要聳肩哦。

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5.不吝惜讚美

Ever hear "it's not what you say, but how you say it?" If you have to critique someone, before you do, think of how you would want to be critiqued. Be direct and address the problem at hand, propose a solution, get feedback and establish a timeframe. At the same time, give credit & compliments where they are due. building confidence in yourself is important, but being able to build confidence in others – that's charisma.
聽沒聽過"你說什麼不重要，重要的是你用什麼方式說"這句話？所以當你批評什麼人之前，想象你自己是否能接受這樣的批評。你應該事先直接指出問題，提出解決方案，給予一定的回饋然後確定一個時間表。同時要不斷給予他們信心和讚美。自信很重要，但是給予別人信心——這就是魅力所在了。

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6.記住別人的名字

A legendarily successful writer known as "Mr. Charisma" himself, once said that "a person's name is to him or her the sweetest and most important sound in any language." It's simple but effective. When you first learn someone's name, repeat it back to them by saying "Hi Amanda" or "It's a pleasure to meet you Amanda." Also use their name when you end the conversation, it'll help immensely. You can also visualize the person's name on their forehead, or associate that person's name with a facial feature, like "Joe's Eyebrows." If all else fails, after meeting someone new, type their name into your phone with a short descriptive word.
被稱爲"魅力先生"的傳奇成功作家戴爾卡耐基曾說過："無論在什麼語言中，對於一個人來說，他的名字永遠是最好聽和最重要的。" 這個道理很簡單，但也很有用。當你第一次知道別人的名字，就立即重複他們的名字給予反饋，比如說"你好，阿曼達"，或者"認識你真高興，阿曼達。" 同時，在結束對話時也要提及對方的名字，這會幫大忙。你也可以用名字形容他們的長相或者他們的面部表情。比如 "喬的眉毛"。如果這都不管用，在認識新朋友之後，把他們的名字簡寫存進你的手機裏。

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7.眼神交流

Make eye contact while a person is talking to you, and while you are speaking to them. Eye contact is one of the most important aspects of communication – it allows you to really see if your message is getting through. It keeps the other person focused on you, and keeps you focused on their words and meaning. If you're making a presentation or speech, make eye contact once with as many people in the room as possible. It will make the whole event feel much more personal to your audience.
和別人和交流的時候別忘了眼神交流。眼神交流是交際裏的重要部分——可以讓你明確信息是否已經被傳遞。也讓其他人把焦點集中在你身上，還可以讓你去集中精力理解他們的話語和含義。如果你在準備一個演講或講演，儘量和室內的人進行眼神交流。這會讓你的聽衆與你的距離拉近。