你爲何單身&如何擺脫單身 最科學的解釋在這

Your social media

你的社交網絡

Your social media channels may be the reason you are single.

你單身，可能是因爲你的社交網絡。

Broadcasting your political views on your social media channels can eliminate any potential suitors with opposing views from making an approach before you have even met.

在社交網絡上表明你的政治觀點，這會使那些持對立觀點的潛在追求者在見面之前就放棄接近你。

Do not post cryptic statuses, because all the reader gets out of this self-indulgent status is a sense that you would be a nightmare to be in a relationship with.

不要發表令人困惑的狀態，因爲所有的讀者都會避開這種自我放縱的狀態，他們會覺得跟你談戀愛會是一場噩夢。

Posting too many selfies can also put off potential suitors, explaining that they may think that you are self-absorbed or very narcissistic and refrain from approaching you.

發佈太多自拍照也會使潛在追求者對你失去興趣，因爲他們可能認爲你太關注自己或者非常自戀，所以就不去接近你了。

Your attitude

你的態度

Many single people seem to carry a typical ‘woe is me attitude’ when it comes to explaining why they haven’t yet found ‘the one’ to settle down with, especially once they have reached a certain age.

對單身的人來說，談到爲什麼還沒找到能讓他們安定下來的“那個人”，尤其是當他們已經到了一定年齡的時候，他們中的許多人似乎都持有一種典型的“悲觀主義態度”。

Feeling sorry for oneself can very much exacerbate a situation and gives potential suitors a reason to stay away.

垂頭喪氣會使情況惡化，而且會給潛在追求者一個遠離你的理由。

You're too picky.

你太挑剔了。

The expert says that the internet is to blame for us being too picky.

專家指出，我們太挑剔，這都怪互聯網。

You get chatting to a guy online. He seems great, but there are so many other profiles out there, maths tell us one of them is almost certainly a better fit for you.

你在網上與一個小夥子聊天。他似乎不錯，但網絡上還有那麼多其他人的資料，數學告訴我們，幾乎可以肯定其中之一更適合你。

How do you get over this? By being less picky? Changing your mindset and stopping concentrating on future lost chances, instead focusing on what will make you content today.

你如何克服這一點？不那麼挑剔？改變一下思維方式，不要關注未來失去的機會，而是把注意力放在現在讓你滿意的事物上。

'I have a type'.

“我有喜歡的類型。”

Dating is a buffet - the best way to build your preferences is to sample everything on offer.

約會就像吃自助，培養個人偏好的最佳方式就是每樣都來一份。

The issue is when we judge someone on whether they are our type or not, we do so on surface level appearances and personality traits. But when we date someone, it’s the characteristics under the surface level which dictate whether or not they’re a fit for us.

問題就是當我們要判斷某個人是不是我們喜歡的那一型，我們只是憑藉外貌和個性特徵等表象來判斷。但是當我們和某個人約會的時候，表象下的特質就會告訴我們他們是否適合我們。

Get to know a personality you’ve never experienced before. Maybe you won’t find your dream guy, maybe you will. What you’re bound to gain, however, is a better understanding of what you want in a partner.

去認識一下你以前從未接觸過的一種個性的人。也許你不會找到自己的白馬王子，也許會呢。不過，對於自己想要一個什麼樣的伴侶，你一定會有更好的理解。

You haven't let go of an ex.

對於前任，你仍無法釋懷。

Your future relationships are affected by a wide range of things, your connection to your ex is one of the most impactful.

你未來的戀愛會受到許多事情的影響，你與前任之間的關係就是影響最深遠的因素之一。

You might notice the conscious changes your ex has caused, but there are so many unconscious changes that you’re probably unaware of. It becomes dangerous when these unconscious changes stop us from starting new relationships.

你也許會注意到因爲前任而自覺作出的改變，但是你可能不知道，許多改變都是你無意之中做出來的。當這些無意的改變使你無法開始一段新的戀情的時候，這就危險了。

If you think you’re a victim of this, it’s important to concentrate on breaking off your feelings for your past relationships before ever starting a new one.

如果你認爲自己深受其害，那麼在你開始一段新戀情之前，集中精力了結自己對前任的感情是非常重要的。

Try being open to new experiences and meeting new people. Expand your experiences and escape your comfort zone. By saying yes to the world you’re improving your chances of bumping into Prince Charming.

試着接受新體驗，認識新朋友。豐富自己的經歷，遠離自己的舒適地帶。對世界說“是”，這會爲你增加撞上白馬王子的機會。