如果你做了這些事情,難怪你會單身
If you're not thrilled about your dating prospects lately, it's easy to blame everyone and everything else: You're not meeting enough people. Or the people you're meeting are liars, losers, and flakes. Or perhaps you're disgusted with the state of modern dating. Or maybe it's the Internet's fault.
如果最近的約會前景慘淡，那你會很容易埋怨其他人、其他事：你見的人還不夠多。或者你正在約會的人是騙子、渣男或性格古怪之人。又或者你厭倦了現代約會的狀態。又或者是互聯網的錯。The good news is that you might be playing a bigger role in your lack of success than you think. It's good news because that means you can adjust your approach and get better results.
好消息是，戀愛不成功可能都是因爲你自己。爲什麼這是好消息？因爲這意味着你能調整自己的方法，獲得更成功的戀情。1. YOU DON'T POST ATTRACTIVE PHOTOS
1. 你發的照片沒有吸引力
You know that posting a collection of flattering photos is critical to piquing your match's interest. Make sure the pics are recent and regularly updated. Include snaps from your summer barbecues and winter ski trips. Show off the tomatoes in your garden.
你知道嗎，發一組好看的照片對於吸引追求者的注意十分重要。一定要確保近期拍攝照片，並不斷更新。包括夏季燒烤照和冬季滑雪照。上傳花園裏的西紅柿炫耀吧！
Ask a friend to take some or hire a professional photographer. You won't look desperate. You'll look like you give a damn and are taking dating seriously.
請朋友幫你拍些照片，或是僱個專業的攝影師。那樣的你就不會看起來飢不擇食了。這些照片讓你看上去就是在認真談戀愛。2. YOU TAKE TOO LONG TO RESPOND TO TEXTS OR EMAILS
2. 你回覆短信或郵件的速度太慢了You don't have to respond to every communication immediately. But if you take a day to return a text, your match is likely to put you in the "not serious" category. Worse, you lose important momentum. If texting feels like a chore, it's probably a sign you're not really interested in someone. Cut bait and move on.
你無需立刻回覆所有的信息。但如果回一條短信你需要花一天的時間，那你的對象可能會覺得你沒有那麼認真。更糟糕的是，你會失去重要的動力。如果你覺得發短信是件苦力活，那這可能表明你對某人並不是很感興趣。放棄他/她，繼續尋找另一半吧。3. YOU DON'T SHOW ENOUGH INTEREST
3. 你沒有表現出很大的興趣Be careful about taking "being hard to get" too far. It's a fact of dating that we're attracted to people who like us. So let your feelings flow. Tell your match what you like about them. Say if you had a great time and want to get together again. Schedule dates in advance. Show enthusiasm. Make someone excited about the prospect of getting to know you.
"欲擒故縱"這個套路別玩太深。約會的事實是這樣的：我們會被喜歡我們的人所吸引。所以放縱自己的感情吧。告訴約會對象你喜歡他的點。告訴他你和他在一起很開心，還想繼續約會。提前訂好約會計劃。表現出你的熱情。讓某人更有興趣瞭解你。4. YOU'RE NOT READY TO DATE
4. 你還沒有做好約會的準備Sometimes people need a push to get back on the dating scene after a breakup or divorce. But if you're checking your ex's social media feed in the bathroom during a date, you're not going to have the emotional bandwidth to welcome another person into your life.
有時分手或約會後，你需要別人推你一把才能重新開始約會。但如果你在約會期間去衛生間查看前任的社交媒體狀態，那你根本就沒有做好準備迎接另一個人的到來。
