我對朋友和家人說,我的婚姻徹底完了
When I got married, one of my mum's friends pulled me aside at my wedding reception and put her hands on my shoulders. "Goodbye Becca Bycott," she said, looking deeply into my eyes, tears in hers. "Hello, Becca Ramspott." I felt one door closing and another opening, just listening to her words.
婚宴那天，母親的一位朋友把我拉到一旁，把手放在我的肩上，"再見了，貝卡·白克特（Becca Bycott），"她深情地看着我的雙眼，淚流滿面的說道。"你好，貝卡·蕾姆斯鮑特（Becca Ramspott）。"聽着她的話，我感覺一扇門關上了，而另一扇門開啓了。Little did I know that 11 years later, I would have to re-open those doors and walk through them again, after an unpleasant ending with my ex-husband. I wasn't sure how to carry myself across that threshold. By the time my marriage ended, I had built a solid career in communications under my married name. People knew me as "Becca Ramspott" from conferences I attended, presentations I gave, blogs I wrote. It seemed awkward, spelling out that I had gotten divorced by changing my name. But I also felt that leaving a failed marriage wasn't something to be ashamed of, no matter how hard it was to say it online. Was there a creative and positive way to go back to "Becca Bycott" and let people know about it?
但當時我並不知道，與前夫不歡而散後，11年後的我還會重新打開這些門，再次走過。我並不確定該如何走過這道門檻。婚姻結束之時，我的職業生涯十分穩固，大家熟知的都是我的夫姓。人們從我參加的會議、做過的演示、寫過的博客中認識我，知道我是貝卡·蕾姆斯鮑特。改了名字後，大家都知道我離婚了，聽起來有點尷尬吧。但不管在網上寫這段經歷有多困難，我都認爲告別一段失敗的婚姻並不是一件丟臉的事情。還有什麼有創意的好方法能讓我重新做回貝卡·白克特，並讓大家都知道呢？
I decided reclaiming my maiden name would have to be a gradual and deliberate process. First, I wanted it to be legally changed, with a new social security card and everything, before I made it "Facebook official" that I was divorced. It had to be the real deal. Secondly, I didn't want my announcement on social media to be just about my name. I wanted it to be part of something bigger and more universal that people could relate to. Finally, my name change would be an assertive, creative statement, not something apologetic or sad.
我決定循序漸進的重新做回貝卡·白克特。首先，在臉書上宣佈我已離婚之前，我要在法律上改變自己的名字，擁有新的社保卡和其它一切東西。必須動真格！其次，我希望在社交媒體上發佈聲明時，不僅僅只是提到改了名字。我希望這是一件更重要的事情，一件人們可以感同身受的更加普遍的事情。最後，改名字是自信、創意的體現，並不表示我很抱歉或傷心。
Comments started popping up from friends and family discovering the blog for the first time. They had a lot of supportive things to say about my name change and my writing. I was glad I put myself out there.
朋友和家人第一次看到我的博客後也給我留了言。他們說了很多鼓勵的話，支持我改名字，也支持我的寫作。我很高興這麼做了。
