自殺未遂者希望你能瞭解這些事
You can-and should-ask someone who could be suicidal how they're feeling
你可以--也應該--諮詢可能有自殺傾向的人，問問他們的感受Barb Gay, executive director of the Area Substance Abuse Council, Inc., a nonprofit substance abuse prevention and treatment agency in Cedar Rapids, Iowa, didn't tell anyone for years that she had attempted suicide. "Part of it for me was I grew up in a home where we had a lot of secrets," she says, including physical and verbal abuse at the hands of her father. "We weren't supposed to be talking about what was happening at home, that was sort of a known fact." Looking back, she can see that some of her behaviors and actions were attempts to break down those walls. "I was reaching out to someone to help me. I wanted someone to say, 'Why are you doing that? What's going on?'"
Barb Gay是愛荷華州錫達拉皮茲市的非營利性藥物濫用預防與治療機構--地區藥物濫用委員會公司（Area Substance Abuse Council, Inc）的執行董事。多年來，她從未告訴任何人她曾試圖自殺。"一部分原因是：我在一個有很多祕密的家庭環境中長大，"她說道，包括父親對她的肉體虐待和辱罵。"我們不能談論家裏發生的事情，這是大家所公認的。"回顧以往，她發現自己的某些行爲在爲衝破牢籠做嘗試。"我當時求助了一些人，我希望有人能說，'你爲什麼要那麼做？發生了什麼事情？'"
Don't be afraid to say the word "suicide"
不要害怕說出'自殺'這個詞
"A lot of people avoid the actual word," notes Diana Cortez Yanez, a lived experience consultant and peer support specialist with the Zero Suicide Institute. "In many cases, they're afraid they'll trigger something." In her opinion, this is the biggest misconception about suicide in general. There's no evidence that talking about suicide gives someone the idea to end their life. Rather, talking about suicide can actually open paths of communication a vulnerable person was looking for.
"很多人都會避開這個詞，"零自殺研究所（Zero Suicide Institute）的現場體驗顧問、同伴支持專家黛安娜·科爾特斯·亞尼斯指出。"在很多情況下，他們擔心會觸發某事。"她認爲，這是大家對自殺的最大誤解。沒有證據表明，談論自殺會讓人產生結束生命之感。相反，談論自殺實則會打開弱勢羣體一直都在尋找的溝通路徑。"I'm not saying it's not a hard subject to bring up, but if we don't speak about it, that's where the scary part is," Cortez Yanez says. "It was a relief for me when people would bring it up. It gave me permission to open up."
"當然，提出自殺這一話題可能十分困難，但不大聲說出來纔是最可怕的部分，"科爾特斯·亞尼斯說道。"當某人提出自殺話題時，我鬆了一口氣。這讓我敞開心扉。"Avoiding the word can make it seem like you're pretending nothing happened, which amounts to a growing elephant in the room, she says. Instead, "say something with love and concern, and try not to assume anything," she suggests.
避開這個詞會給人造成這樣的感覺：你在假裝什麼都沒有發生，不就是此地無銀三百兩嘛，她說道。不如"帶着愛和關切說些什麼吧，儘量不要胡思亂想，"她建議。It's okay if you don't know what to say
如果你不知該說些什麼，那也沒有關係When Clifford Bauman, a chief warrant officer 4 in the U.S. Army National Guard, first started speaking publicly about his 2012 suicide attempt, he noticed that some people treated him differently almost immediately.
當美國陸軍國民警衛隊四級准尉克利福德·鮑曼首次公開談論他2012年自殺未遂一事時，他注意到有些人的態度立馬變了。
