別的女人背地裏說你壞話怎麼辦？
1. Confront them
1. 面對她們
If someone judges you every time you meet them, it may be useful to simply talk to them. A frank conversation usually helps women to understand each other. You may discover some facts you didn`t know about her and it may help you to understand her attitude towards you. You may even be able to prove that you are not as bad as she thinks. Don’t do it, though, if you see that she doesn’t even try to understand you.
如果某人每次一看見你就對你評頭論足，那就簡單地跟她們說幾句，也許會有用。一個坦誠的談話通常有助於女性互相理解。你也許會發現事實上你對她並不瞭解，這也許能有助於瞭解她對你的看法。也許你甚至能夠證明你不是她想象中的那樣壞。但是，如果你發現她甚至都不想要去了解你的話，就不要這樣做。
2. Don’t judge them
2. 別去評判她們
Just because other women judge you for being strong and independent doesn’t mean you can judge them for being weak and passive. Like it or not, people are afraid of strong women – probably because they are not brave enough to be a bit stronger than they are. They may be jealous of you and the fact that you`re better than they are. Instead of judging them, try to help boost their self-esteem and inspire them to become stronger.
僅僅只是因爲別的女人評價你爲堅強而獨立並不意味着你就可以說別人軟弱消極。不管你喜不喜歡，人們都害怕堅強的女人——也許是因爲她們沒有足夠的勇氣變得像她們那麼勇敢。她們也許會嫉妒你，但事實是你比她們更優秀。試着幫助她們激發自信並且鼓勵她們變得更堅強，而不是去評價她們。
3. Don’t lose motivation
3. 不要失去動力
Strong women always have a reason to be strong. Whether it was your choice or something or someone pushed you to become strong, you should never forget your root motivation. The success you have now is the result of your hard work. Focus on your own life and ignore those who’s trying to ruin it.
堅強的女人總是有理由去變得強大。不管是你的選擇還是某些事或者某些人逼你去變得更堅強，你都永遠不應該忘記你的初衷。你現在擁有的成功是你努力的結果。專注於你自己的生活而別去在意那些試着毀了這一切的人。
4. Realize your mission
4. 明白自己的使命
Every successful woman should realize that her mission isn`t all about herself only. You`re a perfect role model for the young ladies. When looking at you and your achievements they`ll try to catch up with you and understand that nothing can prevent them from getting what they want. You make the world better by just being yourself.
每個成功的女性都應該明白自己的使命不是僅僅只是關乎自己一個人。你是年輕女性的完美典範。當她們看到你的時候，也會努力地去追求你所擁有的成就，並且明白沒有什麼是可以阻擋她們追求自己想要的東西。你如真地做自己，才讓世界變得美麗。
5. They’re not worth your attention
5. 她們並不值得你注意
As a successful woman you have plenty of things to do and your schedule is always busy. Every minute, every second, every moment of your life is extremely important. Then, why do you waste your precious time worrying about other people`s opinions and judgments? Women who are constantly judging you simply have nothing else to do. They are lucky to have a lot of free time for gossips while you are trying to reach your goals and boost your success.
作爲一個成功的女性，你有很多事情要做，並且你的排期總是很滿。每一分鐘，每一秒鐘，甚至你生命中的每一刻都是非常重要的。那麼，爲什麼你要浪費你寶貴的時間在擔心別人對你的意見或者評價上呢？那些經常在背後評論你的女人們只是因爲沒事可做。當你在試着達到你的目標跟追求成功的時候，她們卻很幸運地擁有很多閒暇的時間來八卦。
6. It`s your own choice
6. 這是你自己的選擇
Among anything else you should remember is that it was your own choice to become strong and independent and you probably knew what to expect. You`re not the first successful woman in the world, after all. Those role models you were looking for the inspiration from also had the same problems with other women`s judgement. You should be wiser and stronger to deal with the difficulties you can`t avoid.
在別的其他事中你需要記住的就是，是你自己選擇讓自己變得更堅強跟獨立，並且也許你知道未來會是什麼樣的。畢竟你不是這世界上第一個成功的女性。這些你正在尋求鼓舞典範也許跟你一樣有同樣被別人指指點點的問題。你應該更理智更堅強地去處理這些你無法避免的困難。
7. It makes you stronger
7. 這會讓你更堅強
Their attitude wouldn`t kill you and what doesn`t kill you makes you stronger. Their gossips and judgments are useless. In fact, if someone talks about you that means you`re important and popular. Learn how to ignore them. Remember you are smarter and stronger than they are.
她們的態度不會打敗你，反而只會讓你變得更堅強。她們的流言蜚語是沒有用的。事實上，如果某人談論你的話，那就表示你很重要並且很受歡迎。學着怎麼去忽略她們。記住，你比她們更聰明更堅強。
8. Find support
8. 找到一些支持你的人
Women tend to compete with one another and they usually regard other women as their opponent and it starts from the early childhood. That`s why you may find it difficult to get any support from other women when you`re successful. However, you have family and friends and they can easily help you to stay confident and stay positive even if you`re always judged.
女人們總是喜歡跟別人比較，並且通常會把別的女性當做是自己的敵人，這從童年就開始了。那就是爲什麼你會發現當你成功的時候，很難去從別的女人那裏獲得支持。但是，你有家庭跟朋友，她們很容易就會幫你保持自信心和積極性，即便你總是被評判。
