我的丈夫不希望我重回工作崗位
Dear Coleen
親愛的科琳I met my husband in our early 20s when we worked together. We were both very ambitious and loved our jobs, but just after we got married I became pregnant with our daughter.
20多歲的時候，我和丈夫因工作相遇。我們都很有野心、熱愛我們的工作，但結婚不久，我懷孕了（女兒）。Our son soon followed and, for six years, I was a stay-at-home mum. I did enjoy it when the kids were little but when they both started school I began to feel bored and restless so I ended up getting in touch with an old colleague who offered me a job.
後來，又生了兒子，六年來，我一直都是全職媽媽。孩子還小的時候，我的確很享受，但他們上學的時候，我開始感到無聊和不安，所以我聯繫了一位老同事，他給了我一份工作。
However, my husband has been really against the idea. He says that he earns a decent enough wage so he can't see why I would want to work. He's also putting lots of barriers in my way. For example, he's saying that he won't be able to take any time off if the kids are off school. He won't help out with the school run, even though he goes to the gym before work and could easily not do that a couple of times a week to take the kids to school.
但我的丈夫卻十分反對這個想法。他說他賺的錢夠多了，搞不懂我爲什麼想去工作。他給了我很多阻礙。例如，他說如果孩子放學了，他是無法請假去接孩子的。他也不會幫忙送孩子上學，儘管他工作前都會去健身房，所以對他來說，一週有幾次不去健身房而是送孩子去上學其實是件輕而易舉的事情。
It's not just about the income for me - although I would like to have my own money again. But it's more the sense of identity that comes with working. I feel lonely sometimes and I miss the banter and companionship and the sense of achievement after a good day. I know it won't be easy but I want to give it a go.
我關心的不只是工資--儘管我的確希望有自己的收入。但這更關乎於工作帶給我的認同感。有時候我會感到孤獨，我懷念美好工作一天後的玩笑和陪伴時光，以及那種成就感。我知道這並非易事，但我還是想試一試。So why is my husband being so unsupportive when he knows how much it means to me?
所以，爲什麼丈夫知道工作對於我的意義但卻不支持我呢？Coleen says
科琳說Because he's incredibly selfish. You've given up a career you love and taken a back seat, work-wise, for six years to be a great mum to your kids. I know exactly how you feel. I also got increasingly bored and lonely in my kitchen every day when my kids were at school so I went out and got a little part-time job in a shop.
因爲他很自私啊。你曾放棄你熱愛的事業，六年來都退居幕後做家庭主婦，是位好媽媽。我知道你的感受。每天孩子上學的時候，我呆在廚房裏也會感到無聊、孤獨，所以我出門在商店找了份兼職。Shane didn't like it at first either, but he soon got used to it. So stick to your guns. If he really digs his heels in and refuses to help you, then prove to him that you don't need his help anyway.
剛開始尚恩不喜歡我這麼做，但他很快就適應了。所以一定要堅持哦。如果他真的堅定立場、拒絕幫你，那就證明給他看，反正你也不需要他的幫助。
