爲什麼男人會後悔結婚大綱

1. The love was never mutual.

1. 你們的愛情從來都不是相互的。

"She never loved me. She married me because she thought it would force her to develop feelings. Waste of time."

"她從未愛過我。她嫁給我是因爲她覺得婚姻會迫使她對我產生感情。真是浪費時間。"

2. They had different ideas about what family means.

2. 他們對於家庭的意義持不同看法。

"Wife lied to me about her family plans. Partially about having kids, mostly about building our own family. Her definition of 'our family' puts her mother at the head of the table. Mine does not."

"在家庭計劃方面，我的妻子對我說了謊。部分是因爲孩子，主要是關於建立我們自己的家庭。她認爲在'我們家庭'的這個定義中，她的母親必須是其中一員。但我卻不這麼認爲。"

3. She changed the minute she became a wife.

3. 成爲妻子的那一刻，她就變了。

"Her personality changed dramatically from the person I was dating. Stereotypical changes when we got married - way less [intimacy] and more entitlement. Another HUGE change about 8 years into the marriage with a 3 year old kid together. I never would have dated the person she became at that point."

"相較先前約會的時候，她的性格發生了巨大變化。結婚時發生了典型的變化--親密度更少、權利更多。結婚8年發生的另一個巨大變化就是現在有了一個三歲的小孩。如果她是現在的這個樣子，我是不可能和她約會的。"

4. She grew needy and depressed.

4. 她變得粘人、抑鬱。

"Her dad became terminally ill around the time we got married and she never recovered after his death, despite my best efforts to get her medicated and into therapy. She gained weight and does basically nothing except watch Netflix, I do about 80% of the housework. Thankfully we are still in an apartment and have no kids yet because divorce is almost a certainty at this point. We have nothing in common anymore. I feel like I'm living with a lazy, extremely needy roommate. We're living two completely separate lives."

"她的父親在我們結婚之時垂危，她無法從父親的死亡中恢復過來，儘管我已經盡了最大的努力讓她吃藥、接受治療。她變胖了，除了看電視幾乎啥也不做，80%的家務活都是我做的。幸運的是，我們還住在公寓裏，還沒有生小孩兒，因爲我們快要離婚了。我們不再有共同點，我感覺自己在和一個懶散、特別粘人的舍友生活在一起。我們過着截然不同的兩種生活。"

5. She wasn't "the one."

5. 她不是我的"真命天女。"

"I regret that I married the wrong woman, that I was immature and naive and too eager to find A woman vs. [waiting to find] the right woman."

"我很後悔娶錯了人，只怪當時的自己不成熟、太天真、太渴望找到一個女人，而沒有等待適合自己的人。"

6. Nothing made her happy.

6. 沒有什麼能讓她開心。

"She thought buying a house with me would make her happy. It didn't. I sold it alone and at a $10,000 loss."

"她以爲和我一起買房會讓她開心。但事實並沒有。我自己把房賣了，損失了一萬美元。"

7. She had a hardcore drug addiction.

7. 她有很強的毒癮。

"She was a compulsive liar and coke-head. If you don't do drugs, it's hard to pick up on the tell-tale signs. My friends knew, my associates knew, her family knew, everybody knew but me. Yes, every sign was there. I just fell for all the lies. I loved that woman too."

"她是個強迫性的癮君子和撒謊精。如果你本人不吸毒，那你是很難識別吸毒跡象的。我的朋友知道、我的同事知道、她的家人知道，每個人都知道，除了我。是的，跡象都擺在那兒。我只是跌入了她的陷阱。我愛她呀。"