好人卡這樣發：揭祕男女提分手時最愛用的理由

You know when your Relationship is not working out. But how do you tell your partner they are dumped? A new poll reveals just how women and men call time on a love affair.
當你們的戀愛關係走不下去的時候你通常會察覺，但你如何告訴你的另一半他/她被甩了呢？最近有一項調查揭示了男女到底是如何結束戀愛關係的。

Dating site asked 1,000 of its male and female members why and how they would dump a partner. And the results reveal big differences in the sexes over how to give a loved one the push – and the reasons they give for the split.
婚戀網站seekingarrangement 調查了1000名男性和女性，問他們爲什麼會如何與伴侶分手。調查結果顯示，在向戀愛對象提出分手的方式和理由上，男人和女人的表現大不相同。

Women are far more concerned about letting a man down gently – trying to soften the blow with emotional reasons for the split.
女人更傾向於婉轉地拒絕男人，使用一些感性的分手理由來降低對男人的打擊。

Going against the stereotype of the commitment-phobe male, the most popular line used by women in ending a relationship is: 'I’m not ready for commitment yet.' The second most popular is: 'This is going too fast for me.'
傳統觀點可能認爲男人提分手最典型的情況是害怕承諾，但其實“我還有準備好給你承諾” 是女人在分手時最愛說的理由。女人最愛用的第二個的理由：“這對我來說太快了”。

Interestingly, money – and the earning power of their partner – is far more important to a woman than a man. 'You don’t earn enough money' is the third most important reason on the women’s list, whereas it doesn’t feature at all on the men’s list.
有趣的是，女人遠遠比男人更看重金錢，所以伴侶的賺錢能力很重要。“你賺錢太少了”成爲女人分手的第三大理由，然而在男人的分手理由列表上，這點根本不重要。

'It's not you, it's me': Men tend to be less concerned with giving emotional explanations when they dumped their partner- and are more likely to use technology to let them know.
“你沒有錯，是我自己的問題”：而男人在甩掉自己的女友時不太會使用感性的理由，而是更可能用技術性的客觀理由讓女友知道。

For men, poor sex and lack physical compatibility appears far more important than women for why a relationship has failed.
對於男人來講，性生活不和諧不夠契合是導致兩人分手的重要原因，他們比女人更看重這方面。

The third most popular reason for men is they are no longer attracted to their partner and the fourth most popular reason is: 'We’ve lost that sexual spark.'
'男人的第三大分手理由是他們的伴侶無法再吸引他們，緊接下來的第四大理由爲“我們已經失去激情的火花了”。

Both sexes prefer to end a relationship face-to-face but they are also increasingly using email and text to tell a lover they are history.
大多數的男人和女人更願意和伴侶面談分手結束關係，但目前用郵件或短訊的分手形式也在逐漸增加。

Just over half of women (52 per cent) would meet a partner to say the relationship is over, while fewer than half of men (43 per cent) would break the news in person.
超過一半（52%）的女性會向通過一個對象側面來告知分手，而餘下的43%女性則會親自將消息告訴他人。

Harley Street dating and relationship expert Louise Van Der Velde had this advice: 'Relationships work when one whole person attracts another whole person.
哈利街的婚姻關係專家路易斯凡德爾維爾德提出一則建議：“當一個人的全部特徵完全徹底地吸引另外一個人，兩人之間纔會迸發愛情”。

'If you’re giving 50 per cent, and the other is giving 50 per cent, it’s not going to work. Both of you need to commit to giving the relationship no less than 100 per cent. And I think it’s so healthy for people to be honest about their expectations in a relationship.
“如果你只給予對方50%，而對方同樣如此，那你們的愛情就不可能持久。你們雙方都需要給予這份感情百分之百的努力。而且我認爲，人們需要誠實地對待自己的感情期望，這樣纔是健康狀態。”

SeekingArrangement owner Brandon Wade said increasing numbers of online daters jump quickly from one relationship to the next.
Seekingarrangement網站的所有人布蘭登-韋德指出，現在越來越多的在線約會者會從一個關係中迅速跳到另外一個。

He said: 'They meet someone they like, have some fun and then quickly moved on. If you are going to be a success dating online you have to learn how to end a relationship without causing too much fuss. The other message to come from this survey is that women like men with money. It has always been so.
他還說：“他們遇到自己喜歡的人，一起找點樂子然後迅速離開。如果你打算成爲一個成功的網絡戀愛高手，你必須學會如何結束一段感情同時不會引起太多麻煩。另外這項調查給到我們的一個信息是：女人喜歡有錢男人。亙古不變。”The top 10 reasons women give for ending it
女人最愛用的10大分手理由：

1. I am not ready for commitment yet.
我還沒有準備好給你承諾。

2. This is going too fast for me.
這一切對我來講太快了！

3. You don’t earn enough money.
你賺太少了。

4. You are not mature enough.
你還不成熟。

5. I need to concentrate on my career
我想把精力投入到事業上。

6. I don’t like your friends or family.
我不喜歡你的朋友或家人。

7. It’s just not working.
就是沒感覺。

8. We are not going to get married, so what’s the point?
將來我們不會結婚的，那現在這樣還有意義嗎？

9. We have not got enough in common.
我需要志同道合的伴侶。

10. I don’t trust you.
我對你缺少信任。

The top ten reasons men give for ending it
男人最愛用的10大分手理由：

1. It’s just not working.
就是沒感覺。

2. I’ve met someone else.
我已經有其他女人了。

3. I’m not attracted to you any more.
你不再吸引我了。

4. We’ve lost that sexual spark.
我倆之間沒有了激情的火花。

5. It’s not you, it’s me.
不是你的錯，是我的問題。

6. I need to concentrate on my career.
我需要集中精力在事業上。

7. We want different things.
我們追求的東西不一樣。

8. I don’t want to see you any more.
我不想再看見你了。

9. I am not ready for commitment yet.
我還沒有準備好給你承諾。

10. We have not got enough in common.
10.我需要一個志同道合的伴侶。