讓愛情持久彌新的7個小祕密大綱

It's not diamonds and flowers that make a relationship remain as warm, loving and intimate as it was at the start. It's the little things. So check out the tips that follow.

讓一段感情保持最初的溫馨、愛戀和親密的，並不是鑽石或鮮花，而是生活中的小細節。

1. Praise Your Partner for the Little Things 讚美對方

If there's something you appreciate about your partner, from the way he or she makes scrambledeggs to how hard he or she is working on decorating the bedroom, speak up. Praise provides a reminder of your love.

如果有一些小事讓你很欣賞你的另一半，不管是他/她炒雞蛋做得很好吃，還是他/她很辛苦地裝飾臥室，都記得要說出來。讚美是愛情的表達方式。

2. Be Thoughtful 要體貼

The good we do tends to come back to us. When you're thoughtful to your partner, he or she's more inclined to be thoughtful in return. So remember to buy each other's favourite dessert, cut out or email articles you think your partner might like, or take on the other's jobs like arranging for your partner to have a day off, with no housework or expectations.

我們的善舉總是會有所回報。如果你對你的伴侶體貼照顧，他/她也會用體貼入微來回報你，所以要記得買對方最愛吃的甜點，把對方可能愛看的文章剪下來或者電郵過去，幫他/她安排一天沒有家務輕鬆自在的假期休息下。

3. Keep Your Promises 堅守承諾

Failing to keep your word can destroy the unity and trust in a relationship. It's better to say 'Let me think about it' than to say you'll do something but fail to deliver.

不守承諾會毀了一段感情的和睦和信任。所以最好常說“讓我想一想”，而不是誇下海口卻沒辦法實現諾言。

4. Share Your Passions 分享熱情

Take turns choosing an arts or cultural event to attend together each month. The point is to show your partner what you love, so that he or she can experience it as you do (or close enough). To make this work, both of you have to be flexible: someone might have to attend a football match or the theatre. The reward lies in experiencing each other's passion. And who knows – you may have a lot more fun than you ever imagined.

每月輪流選擇並一起參加一項藝術或者文化活動。這麼做，是向你的愛人展示你的愛好，這樣他/她也可以和你一起經歷（或者近距離感受）。想要做好這一點，你們倆都必須很寬容並願意配合：可能有人得去看足球比賽或者去劇院。這樣做的好處是可以體會對方到某些事物的熱愛之情。而且說不定，你會發現其中的樂趣比你想象得要多得多！

5. Kiss Under a Full Moon 在月夜下親吻

On a fine evening, spread a blanket under the night sky and drink in the beauty and quiet of your surroundings together. You can talk if you wish, or simply savour the silence and the experience of being together, side-by-side, under the stars.

找個天氣不錯的晚上，在夜空下鋪條毯子，在美麗安靜的環境下一起喝點酒。可以聊點什麼，或者只是肩並肩躺在星空下，享受寧靜時光和兩個人在一起的感覺。

6. Play the Honeymoon Game 玩玩蜜月遊戲

Do something for your partner that you did when you were newlyweds or first got together. Make a special meal. Send some flowers after a night of lovemaking. Tuck notes in unexpected places.

回想下你們新婚燕爾或剛在一起的時候你爲他/她做過什麼，再做一次吧。做頓特別的飯菜，一夜纏綿後送束花，或者在他/她意想不到的地方留個愛心小便條。

7. Discuss the Big Things in Life 討論生活中的大事

When you were courting, did you talk for hours about current events or the meaning of life? If all you seem to talk about now is the grocery shopping or how much to spend on a new sofa, reintroduce meaningful conversation into your relationship. Try this: one night, while you're in front of the TV or in the car, make a provocative (but not hurtful) remark about something your partner cares deeply about – the government, a sportsman or woman – something that will get his or her dander up. He or she will disagree, of course, which will get the ball rolling. And keep it rolling!

戀愛的時候，你們有沒有花大把的時間來談論時事或者探究生命的意義？如果現在你們只會談些瑣碎小事，像去雜貨店買東西或者新沙發要花多少錢這類的，那你們就需要在你們的感情裏再次添加些有意義的對話。不如試試這個：有一天，當你坐在電視前或者在車裏的時候，就你的愛人很關注的事情（政府或者運動員都可以）發表一些挑釁的言論（不要語出傷人），講一些可能會讓他生氣發怒的話。他/她肯定不會同意你的觀點啦，這樣談話才能繼續下去嘛，繼續聊吧。