我已戀愛9年,爲什麼我對結婚一點都不在乎呢?

I've been in a relationship for nine years and don't care about marriage.

我戀愛長跑9年，不是很在意婚姻。

I love my boyfriend, but getting married is not the most important thing to me.

我愛我的男朋友，但於我而言，結婚並不是最重要的事情。

There are things in a relationship that I value more than getting a ring.

我認爲，談戀愛的時候，有的東西比一枚戒指更爲重要。

My boyfriend and I were 10 years old when we first met and 16 when we started dating. We have tackled our teens together, are halfway through our twenties, and have plenty more years to come together. The storybook ending includes a ring, white dress, and big ceremony. But when I look at our future, I don't define it by marriage. That doesn't take away how much I love him or the future that I want to live together, but it does make things complicated.

第一次見面的時候，我們10歲，16歲時我們開始約會。我們一起度過了青少年時光，又度過了20幾歲的花樣年華，未來還有很多的日子等着我們。故事的結尾包括一枚戒指、白色的禮服和盛大的儀式。但當我展望未來時，我並沒有只想到婚姻。這並不是說我不愛他，或是未來我不想和他生活在一起，但卻會讓事情變得複雜。

Some people get stomach flutters when they think about their wedding day. Others have a full Pinterest board of color schemes and dress designs for inspiration. I have no opinion.

有些人一想到婚禮當天就會心情激動。而其他人則制定了滿滿的色彩計劃和禮服設計。我不做評價。

I don't have any negative feelings towards getting hitched. In fact, I'm pretty neutral to the entire thing.

關於婚姻，我並沒有消極的想法。事實上，我對這件事完全持中立態度。

My parents aren't divorced and I was never told horror stories about cheating family members. I just simply have never given much thought to a wedding. There are things in my life that have always been more important to me than receiving a ring or planning a wedding. Having a life of love and passion for everything I do and everyone in my life is important to me. The ring isn't important.

我的父母沒有離婚，我的家人也沒有對我講過有關出軌的恐怖故事。我只是從未想過結婚。於我而言，生活中還有比接受求婚或策劃婚禮更重要的事情。生活充滿愛、熱愛自己所做的一切、愛生命中的每一個人都是很重要的事情。戒指並不重要。

I was blessed to find the man that I love at a very young age. Although the relationship wasn't always easy, our love for each other always was. No matter the distance, personal struggles, or financial struggle that we went through in our nine years, I always knew that our relationship would be fine.

我非常幸運能在那麼小的年紀遇到我鍾愛的男人。儘管我們的戀情並非一帆風順，但我們對彼此的愛卻忠貞不渝。戀愛的9年時光裏，無論距離、個人的糾結或是財務狀況都不是問題，我知道我們的關係是不會變的。