7個小貼士，贏得社交場合的好感

Being likable is entirely under your control. All it takes is the ability to pick up a few key social skills that build emotional intelligence (EQ).
受歡迎與否完全是可以由你自己來掌控的。你只需掌握一些用來修煉情商的社交小技巧即可。

To help you out, we sifted through the Quora thread, "What are useful social skills that can be picked up quickly?" and highlighted our favorite answers.
爲了幫助你，我們仔細篩選了Quora上“能夠快速習得且行之有效的社交技巧有哪些？”的所有回答，並且爲你整理出了我們最喜歡的答案。

Here are seven simple ways to start crafting a "million-dollar personality" and be the most likable person in the room:
以下7個簡單的技巧便可以幫你打造一個“百萬美元性格”，讓你人氣爆棚。

1. Make eye contact.
1. 眼神交流。

"It is an idiotically simple thing, but it remains one of the most impactful life hacks around," writes Quora user Brad Porter. "The most attractive quality in a person is confidence. But 'be confident' is not very good advice. Instead, find the best proxy for confidence, in terms of interactive behavior. And that's eye contact."
“這是一個不能再簡單的技巧了，但是它仍舊是最有效的生活技巧之一，”Quora用戶布拉德•波特寫道。“一個人最有吸引力的品質就是自信。但是隻是簡單的說一句“要自信”，這並不是一個好建議。相反，就交流而言，你可以將自信更加具體化，即眼神交流。”

Start this habit immediately, says Porter. It requires no practice or special skill — just the commitment to meet someone's gaze and look them in the eye while conversing.
波特建議馬上開始使用這個技巧，使之成爲習慣。這並不需要鍛鍊或者其他的特殊技能——你只需真誠的回視對方，在談話當中認真看着對方的眼睛即可。

2. Put your smartphone in your pocket.
2. 把手機放在口袋裏。

And keep it there until your conversation or meeting is over. Basil Chiasson puts it simply: "Pay attention. Look at them. Stop what you're doing. No interruptions."
當你的談話或會議還沒有結束時，手機最好一直放在口袋裏。巴茲爾•恰森直截了當地說道：“集中精力。看着對方。放下手中的活兒。杜絕任何干擾。”

This is another simple, yet effective, habit that can be executed immediately and does not require any effort or skill.
這是另一個簡單且有效的習慣，無需花很多精力就能立刻執行。

3. Call people by name.
3. 記住別人的名字。

The next time someone greets you by name or uses your name mid-conversation, remember how great that feels.
下一次如果有人叫着你的名字，給你打招呼，或者在談話中提到了你的名字時，記住那一刻，你會十分開心的。

If you have trouble putting names to faces, try different strategies, such as writing them down or using imagery or rhymes associated with the name. Quora user Howard Lee suggests repeating their name verbally when you're first introduced and then twice more in your head.
如果你實在不喜歡當面提名道姓，你可以試試別的方法，比如寫下來，或者使用聯想法。Quora用戶霍華德•李建議當你第一次認識一個人，你可以口頭重複一次他們的名字，然後在你的腦袋裏面再多過兩遍。

4. Smile.
4.微笑。

Don't underestimate the power of smiling.
千萬別低估了微笑的力量。

Additionally, laugh and tell jokes, recommends Quora user Craig Fraser. People unconsciously mirror the body language of the person they're talking to. If you want to be likable, use positive body language and people will naturally return the favor.
Quora用戶克雷格•弗雷澤推薦說，除微笑之外，大笑和講笑話都有用。人們會不自覺地印隨與他們談話的人的肢體語言。想要人氣爆棚，那就多展示一些積極的肢體語言，人們會自然而然地帶給你相應地回饋。

5. Give a firm handshake.
5. 握手要有力。

"Not too hard, certainly not limp and soft, and with no dominance play," writes Tony Vincent.
“不需要太用力，但也不要太柔太弱，沒有任何主導力，”託尼•文森特寫道。

Research shows that people decide whether or not they like you within seconds of meeting you. A firm handshake contributes largely to that first impression, as do strong posture and positive body language.[/en
調查顯示：從第一眼見到你的幾秒鐘內，人們就能判斷是否喜歡你。有力的握手能很大程度地提升你的第一印象，做一些強勢的姿勢或者是自己的肢體語言也有同樣的效用。

6. Listen.

6.聆聽。
Listen more than you speak, says Quora user Mark Bridgeman: "You have two ears, only one mouth. That's the ratio you should use them with."
“聽要多過於說，”Quora用戶馬克•布里奇曼說道，“你有兩隻耳，一張嘴。這也是你在使用它們時所佔的比例。”

7. Don't just listen — actively listen.
7.別傻聽——要有迴應地聽。

Simply hearing words doesn't cut it. Likable people truly listen to the person they're talking to.
只去聽所說的話是沒什麼用的。受歡迎的人聽的是和他們對話的人。

Active listening requires four steps, writes Chiasson: hearing, interpreting, evaluating, and responding.
積極的聆聽有四步，恰森寫道：聆聽，解釋，評估，迴應。

Step one requires dropping what you're doing and paying attention. Next, "paraphrase what you've heard and ask clarifying questions," she suggests. Evaluating means steering clear of quick judgment and jumping to conclusions: "Make sure you have all the pertinent information before forming or expressing an opinion." Finally, "give feedback to let the speaker know that you heard them," she writes.
第一步要求你放下手中的活兒，集中注意力。第二步，她建議道：“將所聽到的自我消化，然後問一些關鍵問題”。評估意味着避免過早下結論：“必須要在形成和表達自己觀點之前確認瞭解所有的相關信息。”最後，她寫道：“及時回饋給說話者，讓他們知道你在聽他們說話。”