成功動力:自我激勵的6種技巧
1. Have a cause
I can’t think of a more powerful source of motivation than a cause you care about. Such cause can inspire you to give your best even in the face of difficulties. It can make you do the seemingly impossible things.
While other causes could inspire you temporarily, a cause that matters to you can inspire you indefinitely. It’s a spring of motivation that will never dry. Whenever you think that you run out of motivation, you can always come to your cause to get a fresh dose of motivation.
1.找到一個理由
“在激勵裏，沒什麼比理由更有力了。這些理由能在困難當前時把你激發起來。它能讓你去做一些看起來不可能的事。”
儘管也有其他一些動機理由能臨時刺激你，與你休慼相關的那些目標能無限期地激發你。這是一口永不幹涸的激勵泉水。什麼時候你覺得沒動力了，就去找找自己的目標以獲得動力的泉水。
2. Have a dream. A big dream.
Only as high as I reach can I grow, only as far as I seek can I go, only as deep as I look can I see, only as much as I dream can I be.
Karen Ravn
Your cause is a powerful source of motivation but it’s still abstract in nature. You need to make it concrete in the form of a dream. Imagine how the world will be in the future. Imagine how people will live and work.
Having a dream is important because it’s difficult to be motivated if you don’t have anything to shoot for. Just think about people who play basketball. Will they be motivated to play if there is no basket to aim at? I don’t think so. They need a goal. You need a goal. That’s what your dream is for.
But just having a dream is insufficient. Your dream must be big enough to inspire you. It must be realistic but challenging. It must stretch your ability beyond your comfort zone.
2.要有一個夢想。還要夠大。
“能摸多高我就長多高，能探多遠我就走多遠，能看多深我就看多深，能做多少夢我就做多少夢。”
你的目標動力對於激勵來說是個挺有力的來源，但還是太抽象。你得把它具體化成一個夢想。想象一下未來的世界會怎樣。想象一下人們怎麼生活工作。如果你無的放矢，根本沒法激勵自己，所以做做白日夢還是挺重要的。想想打籃球的人。如果根本沒有籃筐去投，誰還有動力啊？我看就沒有了。他們需要目標。你也是。不然你白日夢拿來幹嘛。
但光有白日夢還不夠。這個夢得足夠高遠，那才能激勵你。它得既現實主義又不是可以一蹴而就的。它還得能迫使你離開安逸的環境去大展身手。
3. Be hungry
Wanting something is not enough. You must hunger for it. Your motivation must be absolutely compelling in order to overcome the obstacles that will invariably come your way.
Les Brown
To be truly motivated, you need to have hunger and not just desire. Having mere desire won’t take you through difficult times since you don’t want things badly enough. In many cases, hunger makes the difference between the best performers and the mediocre ones.
How can you have hunger? Your cause and your dream play a big role here. If you have a cause you care about and a big dream related to it, you should have the hunger inside of you. If you think that you are losing hunger, all you need to do is to connect again to your cause and dream. Let them inspire you and bring the hunger back.
3.要有飢渴感
“‘想要’什麼那還不夠。你一定要對它充滿渴望。你的動力一定要足夠霸道，那才能跨過總是出現在路上的那些障礙。”
要想真正得到激勵，你得不僅僅是“想要”，還要是“渴望要”。僅僅是普通慾望沒法幫你渡過困難，因爲你又不是非要不可。很多時候，有沒有飢渴感就是將軍和士兵的差別。
怎樣纔能有飢渴感？這裏就得看你的動機目標和夢想了。如果你又有關心的目標又有和之相關的白日夢，你就該有一種飢渴感纔對。如果你認爲自己正在喪失這種飢渴感，你所要做的就是再一次連結起目標和夢想。讓它們繼續激發你並給你帶來飢渴。
4. Run your own race
I do not try to dance better than anyone else. I only try to dance better than myself.
Mikhail Baryshnikov
Comparing yourself with others is an effective way to demotivate yourself. Even if you start with enthusiasm, you will soon lose your energy when you compare yourself with others.
Don’t let that happen to you. You have your own race so how other people perform is irrelevant. Comparing yourself with others is like comparing the performance of a swimmer with a runner using the same time standard. They are different so how can you compare one with the other?
The only competitor you have is yourself. The only one you need to beat is you. Have you become the best you can be?
4.別管別人
“我又不想比別人跳舞跳得好。我只想着跳得比自己好而已。”
要想灰心喪氣，拿自己跟別人比可謂立竿見影。就算一開始你豪氣沖天，一和別人比，你馬上就繳械投降。
千萬別這麼做。你跑自己的，管別人呢。拿自己和別人比，就像讓一個游泳的和一個跑步的用同一時間標準鬥快。都不一樣，天曉得你怎麼比較出來？
自己纔是自己的唯一敵人。這也是你唯一要戰勝的對手。你做到最好了嗎？
5. Take one more step
Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.
Winston Churchill
When you meet obstacles along the way, there could be the tendency to quit. You may think that it’s too difficult to move on. You may think that your dream is impossible to achieve. But this is where you can see the difference between winners and losers. Though both of them face the same difficulties, there is one thing that makes the winners different: the courage to continue.
In difficult situations, just focus on taking one more step forward. Don’t think about how to complete the race. Don’t think about how many more obstacles are waiting for you. Just focus on taking the next step.
5.走下去
“成功無止境，失敗還有救；重要的是要有勇氣玩下去。”
當你半路遇到困難，你可能想過要溜掉。你可能覺得難於上青天。你可能覺得自己白日夢做得太離譜。但就在這裏，成功者和失敗者的不同點就凸顯出來了。儘管他們遇到同樣的麻煩，有一點使成功者與衆不同：玩下去的勇氣。
困境裏，你應該集中精神向前邁多一步。別想着怎樣才能跑完。別想着前面還有多少障礙。只想着你的下一步。
6. Let go of the past
Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Believe it or not, one of the best demotivators is your past. Your past can drag you down before you realize it. Your past can give you a heavy burden on your shoulders.
The good news is it’s a burden you don’t have to carry. Take it off your shoulder and leave it. You might make mistakes in the past. You might disappoint others with what you did. But it’s over. It’s already in the past and there’s nothing you can do about it.
Today is a new day and you have the chance to start again. No matter how bad your past might be, you still have a bright future ahead waiting for you. Just don’t let the burden of the past stop you.
6.讓往事如煙飄走
“搞定每一天，你就能做任何能做的事。”
隨你相不相信，你的過去在擾亂軍心上可謂極具殺傷力。你還不知道，就給它扯了後腿。它給你背上了太重的負擔。不過，好消息是這些負擔你根本用不着去背。拿下來扔掉吧。過去你可能犯了錯，可能因爲自己的所做所爲讓人大失所望。但都過去了，再怎麼樣你都沒法彌補了。
今天就是一個新的一天，你又有機會重新來過了。不管過去你多麼不走運，你仍然前程似錦。別讓那些過去的負擔束縛了你吖。
