你不可不知的30個人生哲理（上）

Since today is my 30th birthday I thought it fitting to share 30 things I understand now that were complete mysteries to me just a few short years ago. These are simple lessons about life in general that I picked up while traveling, living in different cities, working for different companies (and myself), and meeting remarkable and unusual people everywhere in between.
走過人生第30個年頭，多少會有一些感慨，而能在此和你們一同分享這30個人生真理，實在是再好不過了。我曾經也困惑過、彷徨過，然而，我漸漸在一些經歷中悟出了些許真諦，有的是在旅行中的靈光一現，有的是生活在不同城市時的所見所聞，抑或是在不同公司工作時所習得的經驗，當然啦，也包括和那些卓越不凡的偉大人物的結識，從他們的身上，我也學到了很多。現在，我就爲大家獻上我悟出的30條人生真理。

1. There comes a point in life when you get tired of chasing everyone and trying to fix everything, but it’s not giving up. It’s realizing you don’t need certain people and things and the drama they bring.
當你厭倦於追逐某個人或者試着去適應某些事物時，這並不代表着你在自暴自棄。只是你明白了，你就是你自己，而那些人、那些事以及他們所帶來的東西並不是你想要的。

2. If a person wants to be a part of your life they will make an obvious effort to do so. Don’t bother reserving a space in your heart for people who do not make an effort to stay.
如果一個人想要成爲你生命中的一部分，他們的努力，你會看得到。相反的，在你的世界裏，你也不必苦心爲那些不重視你的人留有一席之地。

3. If you want to fly, you have to give up the things that weigh you down – which is not always as obvious and easy as it sounds.
如果你想飛，你必須放棄阻礙你騰空的東西。這聽上去容易，但做起來卻很難。

4. Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing.
即使做一件事情錯了十次，也比什麼都不做來得強。

5. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You don’t fail by falling down. You fail by never getting back up. Sometimes you just have to forget how you feel, remember what you deserve, and keep pushing forward.
每一次的成功背後總是有着一連串的失敗，而每一次的失敗卻使你離成功更近一步。摔倒了，並不意味着你失敗了。真正的失敗，是你摔倒之後再也沒有站起來。有時候，忘記你的感受，記住你應得的，然後繼續前進，這就是你該做的。

6. When you get to know people with different ethnic backgrounds, from different cities and countries, who live at various socioeconomic levels, you begin to realize that everyone basically wants the same things. They want validation, love, happiness, fulfillment and hopes for a better future. The way they pursue these desires is where things branch off, but the fundamentals are the same. You can relate to almost everyone everywhere if you look past the superficial facades that divide us.
當你認識了來自不同種族、不同城市、不同國家、不同社會階層的人後，你會明白，人們最根本的需求都是一致的。那就是被肯定、愛或者被愛、獲得幸福、得到滿足以及對未來美好生活的嚮往。儘管他們追求的方式不同，但是本質是不變的。當你透過表象看到本質時，你會發現世界各地的人都是想通的。

7. The more things you own, the more your things own you. Less truly gives you more freedom.
擁有越多，限制越多。反之，你將獲得更多自由。

8. While you’re busy looking for the perfect person, you’ll probably miss the imperfect person who could make you perfectly happy. This is as true for friendships as it is for intimate Relationships. Finding a companion or a friend isn’t about trying to transform yourself into the perfect image of what you think they want. It’s about being exactly who you are and then finding someone who appreciates that.
當你在尋找最好的那個人時，你可能會錯過那個不怎麼完美卻可以讓你真正快樂的人。友情或者其它親密的關係都是如此。尋找伴侶或是朋友，並不是要你變成你以爲他們會喜歡的那類人。就做你自己，你會找到那個欣賞你的人。9. Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason.
請慎重選擇你的人際關係，寧缺毋濫。沒有必要操之過急，不是不來，只是時候未到。相信你一定會在對的時間遇上對的人。

10. Making a thousand friends is not a miracle. A miracle is making one friend who will stand by your side when thousands are against you.
有一千個朋友並不是什麼了不起的事兒。真正了不起的是，有那麼一個朋友，在其他人都背棄你的時候，始終站在你的身邊支持你。

11. Someone will always be better looking. Someone will always be smarter. Someone will always be more charismatic. But they will never be you – with your exact ideas, knowledge and skills.
總會有人比你漂亮、比你聰明、比你有魅力。但是他們終究不是你，也同樣不會擁有你獨有的思想、知識和技能。

12. Making progress involves risk. Period. You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.
前進的路上總會存在風險。這毋庸置疑。總不見得你腳還踩在一壘上就想着跑到二壘去吧。

13. Every morning you are faced with two choices: You can aimlessly stumble through the day not knowing what’s going to happen and simply react to events at a moment’s notice, or you can go through the day directing your own life and making your own decisions and destiny.
每天早上醒來你都有兩個選擇：一是碌碌無爲、虛度光陰，等到事情迫在眉睫了才勉強去應對。而另一種選擇是，把命運掌握在你自己的手裏，你的人生你做主。

14. Everyone makes mistakes. If you can’t forgive others, don’t expect others to forgive you. To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you.
人無完人，是人都會犯錯。你不去原諒別人的過錯，憑什麼奢望別人會原諒你？原諒，不僅僅是對他人的諒解，也是對自己的寬恕。

15. It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
休息是爲了走得更遠，偶爾崩潰一下也未嘗不可。不要總是假裝自己很堅強，無謂地去證明一切都很好。也不必太在意別人的看法，想哭就哭，誰說流淚對身體不好呢？但記住，哭完了，請你繼續微笑着面對人生。