你價值幾何? 認清自己的真正價值

1. Quality of Interpersonal Interactions
人際交往的質量

We are defined by how we treat other people. Each interaction with another individual reflects a personal belief system and code of morality. How do you treat strangers? How do you treat the people closest to you? These observations give great insight on a person’s character.
別人是通過我們如何對待他人來了解我們的。和他人的每一次交互，都反映了個人的信仰體系和道德守則。你如何對待陌生人？你如何對待最親近的人？通過這些可以深入瞭解一個人的個性。

A high-quality person treats all people with respect, no matter the relationship. A stranger deserves an equal amount of respect as a longtime friend. Even if a person has wronged a high-value individual, the wrongdoer is still treated with respect. High-value people understand that disrespecting others is the equivalent of disrespecting the self.
高素質的人尊重所有的人，無論他們之間的關係如何。陌生人也應該像老友那樣得到平等的尊重。即使有人不公正地對待高價值的人，高價值的人也仍然尊重他。高價值的人明白，不尊重別人，就等於不尊重自我。

2. Quality of Relationship to the Self
自我關係的質量

Think about your interactions with yourself; the voice in your head. How reassuring is it? How positive? How cruel? A high-value person has an honest and fair relationship with himself.
想一想和自己之間的交互；想一想你頭腦中的聲音。有多麼讓人欣慰？有多麼積極？有多麼殘忍？

He is realistic about his flaws, but confident in his ability to learn, grow, and change for the better. A high-value person talks to himself as a friend and as a coach; the relationship is solid and aimed at progression.
高價值的人和自己之間的關係是誠實和平等的關係。他知道自己的缺點，但是對自己學習、成長、向更好方向改變的能力非常自信。高價值的人自言自語時把自己看成朋友，也看成教練；這種關係是穩固的，並且能夠發展。

3. Consistent Demonstration of Courage
一直很有勇氣

A high-value person is brave. Bravery does not mean that he feels no fear; instead, he is attuned to the feeling of fear, yet proceeds in the right direction anyway. A high-quality person is courageous enough to express his personal gifts and opinions. He does not act with the purpose of gaining popularity: he acts because he is very in touch with his core belief system. Actions are deliberate and aligned with his values, and courage is the refusal to be defined by convention at the cost of authenticity.
高價值的人是勇敢的。勇敢並不是說他什麼也不害怕，實際上，他已適應了恐懼的感覺，但還是朝着正確的方向前進。高素質的人足夠勇敢，能夠展示自己的天賦，表達自己的觀點。他這樣做並不是爲了受大家歡迎：他這樣做是因爲能接觸到他的核心信仰體系。他的行爲從容不迫，符合他的價值觀，勇氣是拒絕以真實性的代價來接受慣例的束縛。

4. Strength of Will and Moral Fiber
意志的力量和道德素質

A high-value person is willful, powerful, and moral. There is a clear difference between right and wrong in his book, and these values are non-negotiable. What this type of individual sees as worth pursuing is given full attention and priority. Human willpower is capable of accomplishing astounding feats. Strength of will is defined as a committed persistence to excellence.
高價值的人堅持己見、有影響力、有道德感。在他看來，對和錯有明顯的區別，這些價值是不能協商的。他們認爲是值得追求的東西就會充分關注並優先考慮。人類的意志力能夠實現驚人的壯舉。意志的力量被認爲是堅持不懈就能達到優秀。5. Contribution
貢獻

A high-value person realizes that he was created to give, and understands that personal wealth is reflected in contribution. His contributions are not made with an ostentatious purpose. Contribution does not have to be at a large scale: giving is an act of joy in itself.
高價值的人意識到他生來就是爲了給予，他認爲個人的價值體現在貢獻中。他不是爲了浮誇而去做貢獻。貢獻也不一定要大：給予本身就是一種愉悅的行爲。

By giving to others, the high-value individual feels full inside. This person strategically gives his unique gifts often, but not so that he neglects himself.
通過給予，高價值的人內心感到了充實。他往往適當地給予別人獨特的禮物，但是這樣做，他卻並沒有忽略自己。

6. Ability to Empathize and Forgive
同情和原諒的能力

A high-quality person is capable of relating to those that have wronged him. He is capable of forgiving both outsiders, and himself. Kindness and benefit of doubt go a long way, and holding resentment and bitterness does not allow one to live to his fully capacity. Forgiveness is emancipation from chains of resentment that keep one fettered to the past.
高素質的人能和不公正對待他的人相處。他能夠原諒局外人和他自己。善良和假定對方無辜是很有幫助的，而懷有怨恨和痛苦則不能讓他發揮出自己的全部能力。寬恕讓人從怨恨中解脫出來，而怨恨則讓人束縛在過去中。

7. Effective Prioritizing
有效排列事物的優先次序

This world is complicated. We are pulled in multiple directions every day, willingly, or not. Smart people have a strict list of priorities, with interpersonal relationships at the top. There is a difference between having a priority list and living one’s life according to the list.
世界是錯綜複雜的。無論我們願不願意， 我們每天都會受到到多種方向力量的影響。聰明的人有精確的事情優先級列表，頂端是人際關係。有優先級列表和按照優先級列表生活是有區別的。

High-value people are excellent time, emotion, and energy managers who carefully allot their personal resources according to their priority list. If a time-consuming objective of low value arises, it is eliminated. The majority of time, emotional, and energy resources are given to nurture and sustain important relationships. The high-value person understands that quality relationships with people are all uniquely temporary and thus invaluable.
高價值的人能很好地管理時間、情感和能量，能根據優先級列表仔細分配個人資源。耗時而價值低的事情就會從中去掉。大部分的時間、情感上和能量上的資源用來培養並維持重要的人際關係。高價值的人知道和人之間關係的好壞都是暫時性的，因而是無價的。

8. Flexibility and Openness to Change
靈活並對改變持開明態度

A high-value individual practices the art of letting go when control cannot be maintained. He does not get angry when things don’t go his way, or when uncontrollable events occur. Traffic, weather, and other people are not controllable. However, emotional mastery is.
高價值的人當遇到不能控制的情況時，就會放手。當事情不按他想的方式發展或當無法控制的事情發生時，他並不生氣。交通、天氣和其他人都是不可控制的。但情緒是可以控制的。

So, how much are you worth?
所以，你的價值是多少呢？