想要維持異地戀,你必須知道的這些大綱

How To Handle The Long-Distance Talk

如何進行異地戀談話

The best practice is to simply be honest and straightforward. You need to take a hard look at your relationship, your needs, where the relationship is going, and have a big talk. Be honest. There are emotions which are hard to put aside to think what is best. Sure, you will miss each other if it doesn't work, but you will hate each other if one winds up cheating.

最好的做法很簡單，就是要誠實要坦率。你們需要認真審視感情、你們的需求和戀愛發展的方向，並好好聊一聊。一定要誠實。有些情感你很難把它放在一邊，然後去考慮什麼是最好的選擇。當然有時談過了你們也會彼此想念，但如果有一方說謊，另一方會很痛恨的。

What Real Women Say: " I think I do remember my awkward, insecure, teen self asking him if he would stay with me if I went away in our first conversation about my college choice," says Elyse, 31. " I also remember that, at the time, his answer was not immediate, or definitive. I know I was hurt by that at the time, but I think, looking back it was fairly mature of him not to lie to me. He had to think about it and decide whether or not he was willing to make that commitment. Several months later, we were both all in. We talked about it and expressed to each other that we were both willing to do whatever it took to make it work. "

異地戀女性親身體會：31歲的Elyse說：“我覺得自己真的還記得第一次聊到我大學的選擇時尷尬、缺乏安全感的青年時期的自己，我問他如果我離開他是否還會和我在一起。我也記得當時他沒有立刻給我一個肯定的回答，我知道這當時讓我很受傷，但我想現在回想起來當時他很成熟沒有騙我，他要考慮好再決定是否願意給我承諾。幾個月以後我們依然在一起，聊到這件事時我們都表示願意盡最大努力把戀愛繼續下去。”

What To Do To Make Long-Distance Manageable

如何管理好異地戀

"When attempting a long-distance relationship, the most important thing is to try to make the relationship as 'normal' as possible," says Bennett. "This means trying to share special moments, like holidays, birthdays, and the general daily joys and sorrows that couples who are together in person take for granted. Fortunately, technology makes sharing life moments easier than ever. "

Bennett說：“嘗試異地戀時最重要的是要儘量使異地戀‘正常’，這意味着努力去分享那些膩在一起的情侶習以爲常的特殊時刻，像節日、生日和每天的快樂和悲傷。幸運的是科技使我們比以往更容易分享生活瞬間了。”

What Real Women Say: "My husband and I were actually long distance all through college and part of law school," says Julianna, 30. "There is no gadget that can help sustain a healthy, long-distance relationship other than constant communication, but the one thing that helped us specifically was that we scheduled time each week to have a 'date' on the phone, or Facetime. We usually ate dinner or lunch at the same time. "

異地戀女性親身體會：30歲的Julianna說：“我丈夫和我其實整個大學期間和法學院部分時間一直是異地，保持健康異地關係的關鍵無外乎是保持聯繫，但有一件事真的對我們很有幫助，那就是我們每週都會約定時間在電話裏或Facetime 上‘約會’，我們經常同時吃晚餐或午餐。”