缺一不可:美愛情的5大要件

He listens to you

The best way to know if Mr. Next is interested in (and worthyof) being a candidate for Mr. Right? He listens to you. You'll know he's listening when he shows genuine concern, consistently remembers things you've told him (your birthday, favorite food, best friend's name, etc.), and offers emotional support in honest and thoughtful ways.

認真傾聽

要想知道你的下一任是不是有興趣（或者值得）成爲你對的人，最好的辦法就是看他是不是會聽你說話。他如果真真的表現出關心，你說的所有事他都一直記得（像你的生日，你最喜歡的事物，你最好的朋友的名字等），並且能真誠而周到的給與情感上的支持，那就表示他確實在傾聽。

He connects with you easily

We've all been in those relationships that take W-O-R-K (and suck the life force out of us in the process). When a relationship works on its own, it feels effortless, easy, and fluid. You don't have to force anything, forgive anyone, or turn a blind eye to red flags or gut-twisters. Instead, you communicate and collaborate with comfort, compatibility, and undeniable chemistry. If and when you experience this kind of interaction, you are on to something really special.

常聯繫

我們都處在不斷進行的關係之中（在這個過程中，我們生命力被一點點抽乾）。當這種關係能自行發展的時候，就是輕鬆、愜意而且流動的關係。你不需要勉強推動任何事情的發展，也不用原諒任何人，亦或是對別人的挑釁視而不見。而是，你們之間的交流和合作是舒服的、無障礙的、並且有一種無法忽略的化學反應。如果你們之間的交往果真能如此的話，那麼他對你而言應該是特別的。

He wants the real you

So often, women feel the need to sacrifice some part of themselves to make a relationship work. In the right relationship, there's no need. You don't have to hide, tone down, or apologize for any aspect of you or your fabulous life. With the right partner, you're not only able to be yourself, but you're better able to be the best version of your most authentic self -- no compromises needed.

他想要的是最真實的你

很多時候，爲了讓戀愛關係進行下去，女人們總是得犧牲掉一部分的自我。而在正確的相處中，女人是不需要做這種犧牲的。你不需要隱藏自我，讓自己變得溫柔，也無需爲你和你自得的生活而感到抱歉。如果遇上了對的人，你不僅能做你自己，而且能展現你最真實的自己的最好狀態——全然不用做什麼妥協。

He's trustworthy

A relationship without trust is doomed from the start.
A relationship without trust is doomed from the start. But a relationship with abundant trust? A fabulous foundation for real and lasting love! Built over time, trust is based on the simple belief system that your partner has your best interests at heart and will never intentionally hurt you (and vice versa). If and when you discover that Mr. Next is 100 percent trustworthy, you'll have no trouble giving your heart to him. In return, he'll most likely give you his heart and pave the way for a lasting, loving relationship to unfold.

要值得信賴

沒能建立在互信基礎上的關係，一開始便是註定要破滅的。而滿滿的信任呢，卻是真正的而又長久的愛情的完美奠基。信任是在你單純的相信你的另一半會把你喜歡的東西放在心上，並且絕不會刻意傷害你（反之亦然）的基礎之上，經過很長時間才能建立起來的。只有在你覺得的下一任是值得百分之百的信任的時候，你才能毫無顧慮的將你的心給他。而相對的，他也更可能愛上你，你們的關係才能進而成爲永恆的愛。

He enriches your life

In the wrong relationship, your partner tears you to emotional shreds, brings you down, and in general drains your energy. In the right relationship, he enriches your life, inspires you to be your best self, and brings a sense of peace and possibility to you. You'll know Mr. Next is enriching your life if and when he encourages and supports you professionally, personally, and spiritually. And when he does, he may just be Mr. Right!
Does your Mr. Next possess all five qualities? If so, congratulations! You have done your homework, chosen wisely, and are now well positioned for relationship success.
If not, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back into the dating pool with a clearer understanding of who you want to date. Remember, finding your life partner isn't always easy, but by being clear, honoring yourself, and acting accordingly, you'll cut down on wasted time with Mr. Wrong and Mr. Next, and ultimately make room for Mr. Right.

讓你的生活豐富多彩

在一段錯誤的戀愛關係中，你的另一半會讓你變得情緒化，讓你心情低落，而且一般都會讓你有無力感。而在一段好的戀愛關係中，他會讓你的生活更豐富多彩，激發出最好的你，帶給你希望和平和的心態。假若他能在精神上、專業上、個人生活中都能給與你支持，那麼他就是在讓你的生活變得更豐富。而他會這麼做的時候，他就是你的對的人。

如果你的下任不具備這樣的特徵，那麼你可以抽身出來，整整身上的灰塵，在有個清晰的概念的前提下，重新找一個值得約會的對象來約會。記住，尋找一生的伴侶決不是一件容易的事情，但要記得，要忠於自己，心行一致，那麼你就會極大減少在不對的人身上浪費的時間，最終找到你的對的人。