幸福的人有這些習慣大綱

1. They choose to have healthy relationships.

1. 擁有健康的戀愛關係。

I've learned to be picky over the years about whom I let into my inner circle of friends. Why? Because I believe close relationships are the key to sustaining happiness. One profound longitudinal study proves this. For 80 years, researchers followed 268 men who entered Harvard in the late 1930s through war, career, marriage and divorce, parenthood and grandparenthood, and old age.

多年來，我漸漸變得挑剔，不輕易讓別人走進我的朋友圈。爲什麼？因爲我認爲親密的戀愛關係是維持幸福感的關鍵。一項頗具意義的縱向研究證明了這一點。80多年來，研究員對268位男性進行了跟蹤調查，他們在20世紀30年代初進入哈佛大學，歷經戰爭、職業變化、結婚、離婚、榮升爲父親、外祖父、漸漸衰老。

Robert Waldinger, a professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and the current director of the study, told the Harvard Gazette: "The surprising finding is that our relationships and how happy we are in our relationships has a powerful influence on our health. Taking care of your body is important, but tending to your relationships is a form of self-care too. That, I think, is the revelation."

哈佛大學醫學院精神病學教授、本研究的現任主任羅伯特·沃爾丁格對《哈佛公報》（Harvard Gazette）說道："令人驚奇的是，我們的戀情以及在這段感情中我們是否開心對我們的健康有着極大的影響。照顧好自己的身體十分重要，但管理好自己的戀情也是一種自我照顧。我認爲，這是一種啓示。"

2. Have a mindset of giving.

2. 願意給予。

The late Jim Rohn said, "Only by giving are you able to receive more than you already have." In the book The Go-Giver, the main character, Joe, learns that changing his focus from getting to giving--putting others' interests first and consistently adding value to their lives--ultimately leads to unexpected returns.

已故的吉姆·羅恩說道："只有給予，你才能獲得比現在更多的東西。"在《給予的力量》（The Go-Giver）一書中，主人公喬學會了轉變自己的注意力，從接受轉變爲給予--首先考慮他人的利益、不斷爲別人的生活創造價值--最終帶來了意想不到的效果。

Now science confirms that giving makes us feel happy, is good for our health, and evokes gratitude. One Harvard Business School report even concluded that the emotional rewards are the greatest when our generosity is connected to others, like contributing to a cancer-stricken friend's GoFundMe Campaign.

現在科學證明：給予能讓我們感到快樂、有利於我們的身體健康、讓我們對他人心存感激。哈佛商學院的一份報告甚至總結道，爲他人慷慨解囊的時候，比如爲癌症朋友捐款，我們能得到最多的情感回報。

And before you restrict your giving to financial generosity to something or someone, consider the positive impact of giving of your time, mentoring others, supporting a cause, and fighting injustice.

限制自己爲他人或他事提供經濟支持前，請先考慮付出時間、指導他人、支持一份事業和反對不公平所帶來的積極影響吧。

3. Practice mindfulness.

3. 練習正念。

Positive and happy people make the daily choice of surrendering their thoughts and feelings to the moment. By being mindful and focusing your awareness in the here and now, by calmly acknowledging and accepting your feelings and thoughts, you attain great peace and free yourself from worry.

快樂積極的人每天都會摒棄雜念、感受當下。此時此刻集中注意力，冷靜地承認且接受自己的情感和想法，你就會獲得莫大的平靜、甩掉一切煩惱。

4. Have good emotional boundaries.

4. 懂得劃分情感邊界線。

Negativity is rampant. Happy people remain in the positive because they control what they let in -- whether on social media or in people interactions.

負面情緒十分猖狂。快樂的人會保持正能量，因爲在玩社交媒體或與他人接觸的過程中，他們會控制自己不受負面情緒的影響。