職場祕籍:克服不自信的六個方法

“You'll never succeed.”
你永遠不會成功了。
“You're not good enough.”
你不夠好。
“You might as well give up now.”
你最好現在放棄吧。
Chances are, you're hearing things like that every single day.
很可能的情況是，你會幾乎每天聽到這些話。
They don't come from your friend, or even your enemies.
這些話不是從你朋友口中說出，亦不是你的敵人。
They come from inside your own head.
它們來自你的大腦。
Perhaps you're working towards a big goal: like losing weight and getting fit, or starting up your own business. You might have big ambitions you've also got to fight a battle against those internal voices.
也許你在朝着一個大目標努力，比如說減肥瘦身，或者創業。你也許有野心......不過你還需與自己內心的這些聲音戰鬥。
You're not the only person who feels that way. We all have to struggle against self-doubt. And we can all overcome those negative, destructive thoughts that hold us back from reaching our goals.
你不是唯一一個有這種感覺的人。我們都會與自我懷疑鬥爭。而且我們都能戰勝哪些消極的，有破壞性，會阻撓我們成功的想法。

1. Remember What You've Already Accomplished 回憶那些你已經做到的事情
You've managed to achieve lots of amazing things already. Perhaps you’ve made direct progress towards your goal: you've lost 10lbs, so you know you can go on and lose another 10.
你也許以及做到了一些了不起的事。也許你已經朝你的目標邁步，比如說你已經減掉了10磅，所以你能繼續減10磅。
Even if your goal is brand-new, you can draw on past accomplishments. Maybe you're overwhelmed by everything you need to learn in order to get your graduate you can remember how your hard work paid off when you were an undergraduate, or a high school student.
即使你的目標是全新不同的，你也可以引用過去的成就鼓勵自己。也許你正被研究生學歷弄得焦頭爛額……但你可以想想你在本科時的努力獲得過回報，或者在高中時期的事。
Do it: Write down three things that you've accomplished. It doesn't matter how big or small they are.
這樣做：寫下三件你完成過的事。這些事或大或小，但這並不重要。

2. Act Confident 表現得自信
Even if you don't feel at all confident, you can behave as if you are. Once you start acting confident, you'll begin to believe in yourself.
即使你內心一點也不自信，你可以表現得很自信一樣。一旦你開始假裝自信，你就會開始相信自己了。
Let's say you've started doing freelance photography on the weekends, and you've got your first few paying gigs. Your clients don't need to know that you're new to this. They don't need to hear about how nervous you are. If you behave like a professional, they'll see you as one – and you'll start to see yourself through their eyes.
加入你開始在週末兼職攝影，並且你已經獲得了少量的酬薪。所以，你的客人不需要知道你是個新手。他們也不會聽到你有多麼的緊張。如果你表現地很專業，他們就會正視你，你也可以從他們的眼中看到自己的存在。
Do it: Figure out one way in which you could act confident, starting right now.
這樣做：找出表現自信的方法，現在就開始做。

3. Read Success Stories From Other People 讀一讀其他人成功的故事
Whenever I've tackled a big goal in my own life – like losing weight or starting my own business – I've been inspired by stories from others.
每當我着手實現一個目標時，比如說減肥或者創業，我就會從他人的故事中汲取靈感。
Lots of people have achieved the goals that you're working towards. Many of those people will have started off in a worse position than you: they were more overweight, or more deeply in debt, or struggling in all sorts of ways. But they still succeeded ... and so can you.
許多人以及達到了你正在努力的目標。這其中很多人一開始的境遇比你要差：他們更加肥胖，或者欠債更多，總之在許多方面掙扎着。但他們最終還是成功了。所以說，你也能成功。
Do it: Look for a book or blog written by someone tackling a similar goal to yours, and read a little bit every day.
這樣做：讀一本書，這本書的作者曾有過和你類似的目標，每天讀一點。

4. Ask For Feedback from a Professional 詢問專業人士的意見
You might have spent months or years honing your skills in a particular area, but you' re still worried that you're not good enough.
你也許花了很長時間鑽研你在某一方面的技術，但你依然擔憂你做得不夠好。
Find someone professional, and ask them for their opinion. If you're hoping to write a best-selling novel, hire a writing coach or editor. If you're planning to start up a restaurant, ask for advice from someone who's done the same thing. You'll find out that you're doing a lot of things right (and you'll also get a few tips on how to make improvements).
於是，找專業人士，問問他們的意見吧。如果你希望寫一部熱銷的小說，就找個寫作指導或者編輯。如果你想開個飯館，你可以向開飯館的人請教。你會發現你做的很多事情都是正確的（當然，你也會得到一些啓示來提升自己。）
Do it: Consider hiring a coach, or joining a small group or class. You could look locally or online.
這樣做：考慮下找個指導員，或者加入一個小組或者班級。你可以從附近或者網上找找看。

5. Collect Compliments and Testimonials 收集些激勵語及感言
If you're working on a long-term goal, chances are that you've have some nice comments from other people. Perhaps your friend told you how great you look now that you've lost a few pounds, or your first clients raved about what a great job you did for them.
如果你的目標是長期的，你將很可能從別人那邊獲得一些良好的評價。也許你的朋友告訴你，因爲少了幾磅肉，現在的你看上去多麼的棒。或者你的第一批客戶對你表示感激，說你爲他們提供了一份多麼了不起的工作。
Make sure you keep any encouraging words that you hear. Write down what your friends say. Save all those “thank you” emails. Post your testimonials on your website for the world to read. All of these positive, encouraging voices will help to quiet the demons of self-doubt.
確保你保留了所有你聽到的鼓勵的言語。寫下你朋友們說的話，收集所有表示“感謝”的郵件，在網站上面寫下客戶的感言，讓全世界的人都看到。所有這些積極的行動，鼓勵的聲音能夠幫助你更加自信。
Do it: Look through your emails for any positive feedback, and print it out.
這樣做：翻出郵件中所有的積極反饋，並打印出來吧。

6. Plan Your Next Few Steps 計劃你的未來
One of the best ways to overcome self-doubt is to have a clear plan. It's easy to start thinking “I'll never do it” if you don't know what your next steps are.
克服不自信最好的辦法之一就是制定一個明朗的計劃。如果你從不做計劃，很容易陷入這樣的消極想法：“我永遠也做不成。”
A clear plan lets you break things down into manageable chunks. It highlights any areas where you'll need to do further research or get some help. It takes any vague worries and fears and forces them out into the light – where you'll be able to see plenty of ways to overcome them.
一個明朗的計劃可以幫助你把事情分成容易操作，循序漸進的幾個部分。這樣可以很明顯的劃出你需要作深入研究或者尋求幫助的部分。這樣可以排除你的憂慮，恐懼和阻力，因爲你通過計劃單可以很容易地找到克服難題的多種方法。