消除孤獨感四種有效的方法
Nowadays loneliness has become many people's daily cup of coffee—they sip the bitterness out of it every day. They suffer from what the pure black liquid does to them—it sits people up in the middle of the day, feeling unsettled.
Some feel lonely from living many years alone, becoming isolated that they feel like staying miles away from the rest of the world. Some live right in the heart of a hot tribe, but still feel a foreigner there, detached from others.
As loneliness is often described as a negative emotion, people feel as blue as they are supposed to be, while experiencing it. They feel empty inside, they walk hollow all the way, and they live with a shadowed face and spirit. Loneliness has become a common flu of the modern society. So how does one fix it to reinvigorate their health and happiness?
Prescription 1: Don't blame it. Even if it's a real flu, focusing on the the problem does little to rectify the situation. Blaming how I made myself this lonely and miserable hardly helps either. It only emphasizes the point that you are left alone, makes you feel even desperate.
You should realize that whatever result you have right now, is all accumulated little by little from your previous choices. You made the choice, and You are the one responsible for your current life. Accept it, and start changing it. Every positive thing starts with an acceptance.
Prescription 2: Don't compare. Most of the pain comes from comparing, from our own tricky mind, rather than the lonely situation itself. When reading books, thinking about how spending time with a loved one eating or watching movies could be 10 times more fun, would ruin the lovely moment of reading alone. When walking in an exotic place, imagining only if I could come with a romantic companion, would take away the very romantic moment you are sharing with yourself.
There will be always better things to do, more interesting stuff to play with, if you make yourself think so. By comparing all the time, you make yourself stuck in the vicious circle of never getting happy enough. Stop comparing, try to enjoy the delicious pie in your hand right now, rather than worrying about what if there's bigger pie or more delicious one out there. Read the books in your hand peacefully, it's wonderful. Walk the scene surrounds you leisurely, it's incredible. Whatever you are doing right now is one beautiful thing in the world. See that, and live fully in the present.
Prescription 3: Enjoy it. Nietzsche once said, "Whoever cannot spend two-thirds of the day alone, doing what he pleases, is a slave."Proper amount of loneliness is good for people living a self-conscious life. When you are alone you will have the room to think independently, without others' perspectives interrupting, even without you noticing. When you get comfortable with being yourself, you will learn to listen to the voice inside, and follow the personal legend that your heart resonates with. Enjoy the golden opportunity to be alone, to behave your true self, and search the very answers you always chased outside but actually exists inside.
Prescription 4: Tweak while living. Accept your current situation and adjust your life towards a more balanced one, by changing gradually. If the pie you are holding can really be improved upon, experiment persistently till you can come up with a better tasting pie.
Get more socialized, join the groups you feel a belonging to and interact with people authentically. Open up your mind and deliberately meet more people. By the law of chance, the more people you meet the higher chance you have to dig your soul mates out. You can add more activities and social buzzes to your current life, little by little, till you find out the best channel to express yourself and interact with the incredible others.
It's part of life. When traveling, we will meet some paths that are scenic, some paths that are just blank. They are all parts of the journey. Don't consider only beautiful passages deserve to be enjoyed, and the plain un-exotic route shall be dead walked. Walk both paths mindfully. When there's a bright day, there comes a grey evening. Both are golden moments of our day. Live lively during the day, and enjoy the peacefulness out of the night. Every moment of life is living. Don't live alive in some moments and stay dead in the other. Accept whatever scenario life has to offer, and act the drama out of it.
Although coffee is bitter, it is one of the most favorited drinks in the world. Rather than resisting the bitter beverage, try to blend it with right amount of sugar and cream. Mix it to the perfect flavor that meets your taste and boosts your life. You will learn to enjoy the coffee.
重點註釋：
suffer from 遭受痛苦
suffer from 與......分離
all the way 一直，完全，一路上
reinvigorate 使再振作，使復興
rectify 改正，矯正
accumulate 累積
exotic 吸引人的
vicious 惡的, 邪惡的
resonate 產生回聲、共鳴或共振
come up with 追趕上；提出，想出；準備好
"Whoever cannot spend two-thirds of the day alone, doing what he pleases, is a slave."
：“不管誰獨處三到四天，即使是做他最喜歡的事情，也會變成一種煎熬。”
第 1 頁：英語原文第 2 頁：漢語譯文
當前，孤獨症已經成爲一些人的家常菜—他們每天都承受着由此帶來的痛苦，他們經歷着孤獨帶來的苦澀—通常在中午的時候引起關注，而感到無助。
有些孤獨感是源於常年獨自生活，獨立讓他們變得與世隔絕。甚至一些居住在交往密集的地方，但他們仍感覺像個局外人，遠離其他人。
孤獨感通常被認爲是一種消極情緒，這樣的人感覺像藍色以至於他們嚮往藍色，甚至想去體驗。他們內心感覺空虛，整日無所事事，他們內心和表面上都佈滿陰雲。孤獨症已經成爲現代社會的常見病。所以，如何處置好以讓人們重獲健康快樂已經迫在眉睫。
第一點：不要責怪它，儘管這真的是一種病，過度關注也是收效甚微的。責怪自己的孤單以及無法幫助他人。這些只會加重你的孤獨感，甚至讓你感覺到絕望。
你要意識到，不管你現在的情況如何，都是因爲你一開始的選擇一步步走到今天的。你做了選擇，就要爲你目前的生活負責。接受它，並且開始改變現狀。每件積極的事情都開始於認可。
第二點：不要攀比
大部分的痛苦來源於攀比，來自於我們複雜思想中的痛苦遠比孤單處境本身多得多。當我們閱讀的時候，就會想起與自己心愛的人一起用餐或者一起看十次電影會更有趣，就會斷送單獨看書的美好。當我們漫步在名勝中，只想着能跟一位浪漫的同伴同行的話，就會葬送你自己的浪漫時光。
總是有好的事情沒有做，有更多有趣的東西去實踐，如果你一直這樣想、一直做比較，你就會掉入惡性循環而不能獲得足夠的愉悅感。停下攀比，試着去喜歡你自己手中美味的派，而不要去想着是不是有一個更大或者更美味的派。平靜地閱讀你手中的書籍，那十分美妙。從容地在風景中漫步，也是非常美好的。你現在所做的每一件事情都是美好的。你這樣想，生活就會鮮活起來。
第三點：享受生活。尼采曾經說過：“不管誰獨處三到四天，即使是做他最喜歡的事情，也會變成一種煎熬。”適當的獨處可以很好的滿足個人的私生活。當你獨處的時候，你可以獨立思考問題而不會被其他人打斷，即便是無意識的。當你享受獨處的時候你就會傾聽自己的內心，並且會向着你心中的目標前進。享受獨處的黃金期，表現真正的自我，尋找你經常試圖向外界尋找的問題的正確答案，但其實就在你的心中。
第四：爲生計而苦惱。接受現狀以使你的生活朝平衡發展，逐步發生改變。如果你手中的派真的可以改良的話，堅持不懈地去做直到你可以做出一個更好的。
多一些交際，加入到你真正覺得有歸屬感並且真正與其中成員有互動的團體中去。打開你的心扉去認識更多的人。根據機會法則，你見面的人越多，找到音的概率就越大。你可以在你當前的生活中有更多的活動和社交，然後漸漸地，直到你找到表達自己的正確方法，並且與其他人交往。
這是生活的一部分，旅行時，我們會遇到一些風景優美的小徑，但是光線暗淡。這，也是旅行的一部分。不要想着只有華麗的通道值得去觀賞，而那些沒有風景的小徑就可以視而不見。在兩種道路上都要用心去走。在一個陽光明媚的日子裏，迎來了昏暗的黃昏，這些都是一天中的黃金時光。在白天充滿生氣地生活，在夜裏享受平靜。生活中的每刻都是鮮活的。不要在一些時候有生氣而在另一些時候又沒有生氣。接受你所遇到的一切，並且從中吸取經驗。
儘管咖啡是苦澀的，但它是全世界最受歡迎的飲品之一。與其經受苦澀，不如試着去加點糖和奶油，混合成完美的味道以符合你的味覺和提升你的生活質量。那樣，你就學會了享用咖啡。
