戀愛課堂：關於感情的10個小細節

In this self-centered world, it’s hard to keep a romantic relationship going strong. Break-ups happen often for no reason at all, or a reason that could have been overcome if only there was a will to do so. Sometimes, it’s the small things that keeps a couple together for a long time. Here are 10 little things that matter in every relationship.
在這個以自我爲中心的時代，要想很好的維持一段戀情真不是那麼簡單的事情。分手有時根本不需要理由，就算有，也只不過是信手拈來的罷了。其實很多時候是一些小事得以將關係一直維持下去。下面是十件能促進關係發展的事情。

Say it!
說出來！

We mean the “I love you” sentence. If you feel it, say it. Take your significant other by the hands, look them deep into their eyes, and say it. A smile is sure to appear on their face. Three little words that can light up both your days and remind them of how much they are loved.
我指的是“我愛你”這句話。如果感受到了，那就說出來，牽着對方的手，看着他的眼睛說出來吧。他們一定會露出笑容。這樣簡單的三個字能讓一整天都晴朗起來，告訴對方你到底有多愛TA吧。

Watch a romantic movie
看一場浪漫的電影

Simple but effective. There are plenty of romantic movies out there to see, but personally, I’d suggest you skip Hollywood movies and focus on European ones. Why? They are not Cinderella like, they have real-life situations and they can be pretty interesting.
簡單有效的辦法。愛情浪漫片真的是太多了，但個人來說，我建議你跳過好萊塢電影去欣賞一下歐洲電影吧。爲什麼呢？他們不是灰姑娘似的故事結構，有真實的生活作爲背景，也會非常有趣。

Be silly together
倆人一起犯二

Letting your inhibitions go and being childlike is something that can easily be forgotten when you’re an adult and especially when you’re a couple. Being silly together shows that you are comfortable with each other, that you have embraced one another and could be a great reminder why you fell for each other in the first place. A couple who can laugh and play together is a happy one.
把那些拘謹都藏起來像孩子般去相處吧，忘記自己是個大人。倆人一起犯二說明互相在一起非常舒服，你非常喜歡TA，也可以提醒對方當初因爲什麼而相愛。能在一起大笑玩耍的纔是好情侶呢。

Say thank you
說謝謝

It’s not hard to say thank you.
說謝謝不是難事。

But we don’t mean the default “thank you” such as when someone brings you a cup of coffee. We mean a “thank you” for the things that really matter. When they hold your hand through a crisis, when they lift you up when you fall, when they stay by your side when you’re ill. In those situations gratitude is rarely expressed with words, but can go a long way to make the other person feel special and cared for.
我們這裏說的可不是那種別人幫你帶一杯咖啡的官方“謝謝”，而是對真正重要的事情的一句“感謝”。他們陪你度過一次危機，或者在你摔倒的時候扶你一把，又或者是生病時對你悉心照顧。這些情況下真的很難用言語去表達感激，但你需要讓對方知道他們的特殊性感受到你對他們的關心。Compliments
讚美

Compliments are wonderful. It’s an instant lift when someone acknowledges you in a positive light, especially when it’s coming from someone you love. It shows that you’re noticed, appreciated and admired. Complimenting your partner on their looks, their personality, their positive spirit or whatever else you admire or love about them is something you can’t do too much of. It’s a small gesture that can make a huge, positive impact on your relationship.
讚美真的不可或缺。當有人持續給你積極的讚賞，特別是愛人的讚美，真是一種激勵。這表示你是被關注，欣賞和膜拜的。誇誇對方的打扮，性格，他們積極的精神或者無論什麼能吸引到你讓你喜歡或者崇拜自己卻做不到的地方。這種小舉動能夠大大促進你們的關係哦。

Do what the significant other enjoy
陪TA做TA喜歡做的事情

If he likes to watch sports, watch with him and cheer on his favorite team. Listen and take interest in what your partner likes to do, even if it’s not your personal favorite. In turn, when you want to do an activity that you enjoy, they’ll be open and willing to do it with you as well. Going outside of your comfort zone and sitting through an opera or ballet for the simple fact that she enjoys it, speaks volumes to your significant other. It’s a small gesture that shows you want to be with them and that you go out of your way to see them happy in their element.
如果他喜歡看球賽，那麼就陪他一起看，爲他支持的隊伍加油。聽聽TA喜歡什麼，自己也去培養興趣吧，即使你不是很喜歡。同樣，當你想做自己喜歡的事情時，他們也會陪着你哦。去舒服的地方，坐着看看歌劇或芭蕾，只要她喜歡就夠了，同時也別忘記展現出你對事物的自信哦。這種小舉動能顯示出你樂於跟他們在一起，也願意用他們的方式來哄他們開心。

Travel together
一起旅遊

Did you know that some couples don’t travel together before their honeymoon? It may come as a big surprise to realize that you’re not comfortable traveling with each other after years and years of relationship, and that’s normal, but there’s a cure.
你知道有些人蜜月纔是他們的第一次旅行麼？所以要過好多年才知道原來你們不適合一起旅行哦。這很正常，也可以去矯正。

Start now. When you find yourself far away from the place you live in, you have only each other to rely on, you will spend more time together- just the two of you, and you will create memories. If you can’t afford a big vacation, try doing a ‘staycation’ and explore cities and sights around you that are nearby. Whether or not it turns out to be a great vacation, it will give you both a shared experience and something to talk about that will bring you closer.
現在就開始吧。找一個較遠的目的地，你們只能互相依靠對方，你們要花大量的時間泡在一起-只有你們兩個人，然後就創造美好回憶啦。如果請不了長假，試着來個城市旅行，遍訪周遭的城市風景。無論旅行是否開心，都會讓你們日後有拉進關係的共同經歷和體驗哦。

A little present goes a long way
小禮物大用途

It doesn’t have to be expensive or elaborate, in fact, it can be the simple act of getting them their favorite ice cream on the way home because you know they had a long, hard day at work. It’s not the present but the gesture and the thought that went into it that will be appreciated more so than the actual ‘thing’ you got them. Have they been talking about getting a certain book or waiting to see a certain movie? Buy that book when it comes out or make a date for the day the movie opens, not only will they be happy but they’ll know that you listen to them and you care.
不需要多貴重多精緻，實際上，可以僅僅是在回家路上帶一隻他們喜歡的冰激凌來解除一天的工作疲乏。這不是禮物，但這個舉動和想法本身就能比實際去準備禮物帶來的感動更多呢。他們最近說了要買什麼書或是等着去看什麼電影麼？等書上市的時候去買一本吧，或者在電影上映那天安排一個約會呀，他們不僅會喜出望外還會明白你的關心無處不在。

Cuddle
依偎

Cuddling is the best way to show that you love someone. Cuddling has this wonderful ability to soothe away the pain and calm you down. It works both ways. Not only will your partner feel relaxed, but you will shake off some of that everyday stress. And when it’s cold, you could keep each other warm.
依偎是表達愛意的最好辦法。能有效緩解難過讓你迅速安靜下來。對兩人都有好處哦，不僅僅他會覺得放鬆，你也會甩掉一天的包袱。天冷的時候你們還可以互相取暖呢，不是麼。

Take their side in an argument
站在TA那邊

This is more important than you think. You should always back your partner up when they are having a brawl, even if you think that they are not in the right. You must never leave them standing on their own in an argument. At the very least, you should try and bring the argument to an end. That way they will know that you have their back, that they can rely on you and that you love them. This is a little thing that makes a BIG difference.
這比你怎麼想更加重要。當他們有了爭吵的時候，要力挺一下哦，哪怕TA不一定是對的。你必須要讓兩個人保持在統一戰線上。或者至少，你可以試着去停止這類爭吵。他們也會知道你是支持他們的，他們可以依靠你，你是愛他們的。這種小事真的能起到很大的作用哦。