你的另一半不夠尊重你的5大表現

partner shows up unannounced

1.你的配偶未先告知便出現在你面前

Surprising you.with flowers on a random Wednesday is a welcome treat; showing up unannounced when you're clearly busy or have a lot going on is not.

隨便挑個週三送上鮮花給你個驚喜，這是一種受歡迎的待人之道；但是在你明顯十分忙碌或者是還有很多事情要處理的時候未先告知便出現的話，事情就恰恰相反了。

If you find your partner repeatedly popping up at inopportune times, at inconvenient places, there's a problem.

如果你發現你的配偶經常性地在不適當的時候、不方便的地點出現，那麼肯定就是有問題了。

partner tries to control you

2.你的配偶試圖控制你

If you often find your partner using sneaky techniques to keep you in check, he or she doesn't respect you.

如果你經常發現你的配偶暗中使用技巧來控制你，那麼他（她）就是不夠尊重你。

partner treats sex as a transaction

3.你的配偶將性視爲一種交易

Anytime a person expects sex in exchange for something, the most basic form of respect is tossed out the window.

無論何時，如果一個人期待用性來交換某件東西，那麼最基本的尊重也就蕩然無存了。

Sex should never be used as a method of coercion or a form of payment.

性決不應該作爲一直強制方法或者是支付形式。

partner isn't proud of you

4.你的配偶不爲你感到驕傲

Just as you've strived for your parents' approval throughout your life, seeking those heavily-weighted words of acceptance, you want the same from your partner.

正如你窮盡一生爲獲得父母的認可一樣——尋求那些代表贊同的重量級文字——同樣你也希望從你的配偶那兒得到這些。

To hear "I'm proud of you," from someone you respect is a big deal, and it's important that both partners take pride in the relationship. When your partner is proud of you, there's a mutual respect for one another.

聽到你尊敬的人說"我爲你感到驕傲"是件重要的事情，雙方對這種關係感到自豪也是如此。當你的配偶爲你感到驕傲的時候，彼此的尊重也就有了。

partner refuses to compromise or negotiate

5.你的伴侶拒絕妥協或者是協商

It's only natural the person closest to you will get under your skin, and part of a relationship is being able to discuss life's major challenges as a team.

你最親密的人對你妥協是件很自然的事情，這種關係的一部分就是能夠像團隊一樣討論人生的重大挑戰。

But when one person in a relationship isn't willing to act as a team, there's bound to be long-term issues.

但是，當其中一人不願意跟你像個團隊一樣，這就一定是個長期的問題了。