女人擇偶該以人品爲標準還是金錢爲標準?大綱

Nabbing a wealthy husband might seem like an outdated dream.

釣個金龜婿可能似乎看起來已經過時了。

But one Mumsnet user asked whether women should still be encouraged to 'marry well' and find a man who earns enough to support the family financially.

但是Mumsnet（英國著名育兒網站）一名用戶最近問道，是否仍然應該鼓勵女性“嫁得好”，找一個掙錢足夠多可以養家的人。

The question divided opinion. Some said 'marrying well' should not mean finding a rich man but rather a partner who is 'kind and clever with a strong work ethic' while others warned it was 'idealistic' to think all women can be financially independent.

人們對這個問題的分歧很大。一些人認爲，“嫁得好”不意味着要找一個有錢的男人，而是應該找一個“善良、聰明、有良好職業道德”的人；而另一些人則警告稱，所有女性都可以經濟上獨立，這是“不切實際的”。

Taking to the online forum, Mumsnet user windygallows, who is in her 40s, said she could see the way some of her friends benefited from having a wealthy husband. It allowed them to be stay-at-home mothers without the financial worries.

在Mumsnet上提問的是一名40多歲的女性--“windygallows”，她表示，她看到自己一些朋友嫁個有錢的丈夫之後得到了很多好處。這使得她們可以待在家裏做全職媽媽，而不用擔心財政上的問題。

She explained that as a single mother she had experienced first-hand the 'slog' of raising a child on one salary, adding: 'Marrying well doesn't mean a good marriage or relationship but it does make things easier.'

她解釋說，作爲一個單身媽媽，她親身經歷了用一個人的薪水撫養一個孩子的“艱辛”。她補充說道：“嫁得好並不一定意味着良好的婚姻和關係，但是的確能讓事情輕鬆不少。”

The post sparked dozens of responses. One user said looking for a wealthy partner would help deal with the 'sad truth' that even those who work hard can struggle financially.

這篇帖子引來了數十條回覆。一名用戶表示，找一個富有的伴侶的確有助於應對這個“可悲的真相”--即使那些努力工作的人金錢上也不寬裕。

'So you need family money. And if you haven't got it, life will be easier if you find someone who has,' the user wrote.

這位用戶寫道：“你需要錢來養家，而如果你自己掙不到，找個能掙錢的人，生活就會簡單許多。”

Another pointed out that her husband's salary had helped her maintain a good lifestyle even after she became disabled and could no longer work.

另一名用戶則表示，雖然她成爲殘疾人不能夠再工作，但是她丈夫的薪水還是幫她維持了不錯的生活。

The user wrote: 'Very fortunately my husband is in the top 0.1% of earners so yes I have this disability which impacts hugely on my life; but I am lucky I do not have to think about money and my life would without question be very, very hard as I am not able to earn.'

這名用戶寫道：“非常幸運的是，我丈夫是收入最高的那0.1%中的人。所以雖然殘疾嚴重影響了我的生活，我卻很幸運不用考慮錢的問題，而我的生活也不會因爲我無法掙錢而變得非常非常艱難。”

However other users blasted the 'anti-feminist view'. Several pointed out that marrying rich does not guarantee stability or happiness.

然而其他用戶抨擊了這一“反女權主義觀點”。一些人指出，嫁給有錢人並不能保證穩定和幸福。