有了孩子後,怎樣才能繼續社交呢

Sleep deprived and exhausted, and often with a pounding headache. It's a post-night-out feeling which is eerily similar to how you feel as new parent. But while parents' feelings are often brought on by trying to keep a child happy, often they end up neglecting their own needs.

缺覺、筋疲力盡、經常劇烈頭痛？這種前一晚出去high玩之後的感覺與初爲人父/母的感覺異常相似。雖然父母的感受通常都是爲了讓孩子開心，但他們卻往往忽略了自己的需求。

A impromptu pub visit is off the table, as are those all-night parties which perhaps populated your younger social life. But there is a way to continue having a life, apparently. Hannah Saunders used to be deputy director of policing at the Home Office, until she quit the rat race and set up her innovative business organising "family raves".

更別提臨時去酒吧、參加通宵聚會了（這也許是你年輕時代的社交生活）。但顯然，繼續這種生活也不是沒有辦法。漢娜·桑德斯曾擔任內政部警務處副處長，不久前她退出了這種激烈競爭，開始着手組織"家庭狂歡"這一創新業務。

She said: "I am a raver of many decades but once you have children your life changes and you need to be more creative." Hannah runs events under her company name Big Fish Little Fish, and they now happen around the world as far afield as Australia.

她說："幾十年來，我一直都是社交達人，但一旦生了孩子，你的生活就會發生變化，你需要更有創造力。"漢娜以其公司名"大魚小魚"舉行活動，現在她們的活動遍佈世界各地，遠至澳大利亞。

Her events take place over a couple hours in the afternoon and have attracted some big name DJs. She joined the Daily Mirror First Time Dads podcast to talk about holding on to your social life while still being a great parent.

她在下午舉辦時長數小時的活動，吸引了一些大牌DJ。她參加了《每日鏡報》的"初爲人父"（First Time Dads）播客，談論既要做一名合格的父母，也要堅持自己的社交生活。

She said: "Of course you can't go out exactly as you did but there are ways to plan it. It's harder to organise but you have to grab your moments." She said it's important to share load as much as possible with your partner.

她說："當然，你不能像以前那樣想出門就出門，但你可以想想辦法。組織起來很難，但你必須抓住時機。"她表示，儘可能多的讓另一半分擔是很重要的。

Hannah said: "It's all in the planning. I went to a gig when my oldest daughter was three weeks old." I got exact stage times, I fed her until she was like a balloon.

漢娜說道："關鍵就是計劃。大女兒出生三週時，我去看了一場演出。"我知道演出的確切時間，我把她喂的像個氣球。

"As soon as she was sound asleep I left her with a friend and went out for 90minutes had a glass of wine and then went home in time for the next feed." She said that it is also important show your children what socialising is.

"她一睡着，我就讓朋友幫忙照看她，自己出去呆了90分鐘、喝了杯酒，在她需要喝奶前及時回到了家中。"她說讓孩子知道什麼是社交也很重要。

She said: "We get together with our friends and push all the kids together and we as parents can have a chat."

她說："我們與朋友聚在一起，讓孩子們自己玩，我們家長就在一旁聊天。"