交際寶典:五招擺脫爛記性記住新人名

Have you ever met someone and within seconds completely forgotten their name? (Haven't we all。)

你有沒有試過在新認識某人後，幾秒鐘後就完全忘掉這個人的名字？(這樣的情況，我們都囧過…。)

Remembering people's names is crucial if you want to build strong relationships in life. And we all know strong relationships are one of the most important factors for a productive and successful life。

如果你想在生活中建立緊密的人際關係，那麼記住人們的名字顯得至關重要。我們都明白，要想有一個飛黃騰達的人生，緊密的人際關係是成功的關鍵因素之一。

So why is it so difficult to remember someone's name? And what can we do to make sure we're not left in an awkward situation where we utter those fatal words: "sorry – what was your name again?"

那麼，爲什麼要記住一個人的名字是如此的困難呢？於是，我們必須得確保自己在尷尬中不會更尷尬，否則我們都會犯這樣的致命："額，抱歉，你的名字是？"

One of the key reasons we forget names is that we don't "focus" our attention on them. As soon as we're introduced to someone new, our thoughts are racing ahead to think of "what to say next" and we pay no attention to the name we've just been told。

我們會忘了別人的名字，其中一個原因是我們沒有將注意力放在那人身上。每當我們向新認識的人做自我介紹時，我們會思考下一句話說什麼，所以就會略過對方剛剛提到過的名字。

Not only is it embarrassing when this happens, it can also severely damage new relationships。

假如真的忘了別人的名字，情況會變得很糟糕，還有可能危及這段的新生人際關係。

On the flip side, one of the quickest and easiest ways to build rapport and demonstrate your respect for someone – is to use their name when you're speaking to them. You may have noticed that successful people who carry a lot of authority in their jobs often use peoples names when they're speaking。

相反，構建一段良好的人際關係，展示出自己對他人的尊重，最好最快的方法就是你和他人談話時叫出對方的名字。或許你平常會注意到，事業獲得成功、有權威的人士常常在與別人對話中叫出他人的名字。

There are a few things you can do to help you with this。

下面的方式可以幫助你記住別人的名字：

s & listen intently. The first is to mentally make a decision to remember the name before you hear it. This focuses your brain and directs it to store the name in your long-term memory. You can imagine that this person is very powerful and important and that it's in your interest to remember their name! By making an effort to focus, you will also naturally lean in and listen more intently when they say their name。

1.集中精神，仔細聆聽。首先，在進行談話前，你要暗示自己先記得對方的名字。這樣會讓你的大腦集中精力，直接將這個心理暗示存儲到大腦的長期記憶空間。另外你要想象，這個人是很有權威，且非常關鍵重要，那你就會提起興趣去記住此人的名字了！努力去集中精神，你就會自然而然地傾聽並專心留意對方的名字。

at the name. The second is to repeat the name back to the person you have just met. You can take this a step further by asking them to spell their name or asking them the origin of their name. This extends the conversation and provides more mental "triggers" for you to recall the name at a later stage. It also builds rapport because you are showing an interest in their name. Remember to only ask these questions if it makes sense to do so (i.e. the name is unusual). People may question your intelligence if you ask them how to spell common names like "Dave" or "Sarah"!

2.重複對方的名字。第二點就是要重複你新認識的人的名字。想要印象深刻，你還可以讓對方拼寫名字，或者讓對方說說取該名的緣由。這樣做不僅能擴展話題，還能在你腦海中建立該名字的記憶觸發點。這些問題同樣可會幫助構建人際關係，因爲你對對方的名字表現出了興趣。不過要記住，只能問些有意義的問題那(也就是說對方的名字要很特別)。假如，你問對方一些簡單名字(如Dave和Sarah)的拼法，他會覺得你的智商很低。

ciate the Name. The third is to associate their name with something familiar. For example you could associate them with someone else you already know who has the same name。

3.把名字和其他事物聯繫起來。第三點是要用一些熟悉的事物與名字之間建立一種關聯性。例如，你可以用一個你熟悉的同名同姓的人作爲對方名字的關聯點。

e the name. The fourth is to rhyme their name with another word. The more absurd the rhyming word – the better. Our brains love absurdity and finds it very easy to remember absurd things over dull things. I once had a client called Anshika – which I'm sure you'll agree is an unusual name. How did I remember it? I rhymed it with "chicken tikka" – this sounds silly but guess what? I never forgot her name! You can play around with adding an image to your rhyme too, to increase your chances of remembering it! I'm sure you can imagine how I may have pictured my client Anshika!

4.讓名字朗朗上口。第四是要把名字和其他的單詞取諧音。押韻的詞越荒謬可笑，名字越容易記住。我們的腦子就喜歡一些荒謬可笑之事，這些事笑點低，大腦便能容易記得住。之前，我有一個名叫Anshika的客戶(大家肯定會覺得這個名字很特別)。那我是怎樣記住這個名字呢？我弄了個小押韻：chicken tikka(烤雞肉)。這樣聽起來很荒唐。但你知道麼，我永遠都忘不了這個名字。除了押韻，你還可以弄些小惡作劇——用圖像描繪名字，這樣能增加名字被記住的機率！我相信，大家可以想像得到，我是如此那般地用圖畫描繪出我的那個客戶的。

Facial fifth is to note any distinguishable facial features. What is different or unusual about this person? For example someone may have unusually curly hair and you may remember them as "curly sue". By associating their name with the characteristic the next time you meet them, you're memory will be triggered by the feature (in this case curly hair) which will in turn trigger the name! (curly sue)。

5.記下臉部特徵。第五是要記住所有容易辨認出的臉部特徵。這個人的特別之處在哪呢？例如，有人會有一頭很特別的捲髮，那你就能記住他是"捲毛"。在下次見面時，你將那人的特徵與名字相關聯，你的記憶就會被這特徵觸發(一頭捲髮)，那名字就會在你的腦海中閃過了(這是捲毛同志！)

As you can see, there are many ways to increase your memory when it comes to remembering people's names. And in my experience it really is worth it to make the effort, especially if it means you escape that dreaded phrase: "Sorry what was your name again?"

如你所見，要記住一個人的名字，增強記憶力的方法是多種多樣的。依我經驗而談，努力記住其他人的名字是非常有價值的，特別能把你從"不好意思，能再說一遍你的名字麼？" 這樣的囧話語中拯救。

Why not try using one of these tips next time you're introduced to someone? Who knows – it could be the start of a really important relationship in your life?

下次再有認識新朋友的場合，你也可以嘗試實用上述建議哦！這次的互相介紹可能就是你人生的一段重要的人際關係的開始。這"天"才知道，我們只需好好把握。