害怕失敗所以什麼都不敢做？7步幫你克服！

7 Ways to Overcome the Fear of Failure
7種方法克服對失敗的恐懼

Evan Asano, CEO and founder: , answered the question “How can I overcome the fear of failure?” on Quora.
的創始人兼首席執行官Evan Asano，在Quora上回答了“如何克服對失敗的恐懼？”

1. Reframe Failure.
重新定義失敗

What is failure? The only true failure is the one you don’t learn from. Facebook’s moto is: Fail fast, fail forward. Facebook knows the biggest failure would be not evolving, not pushing boundaries and not finding ways to disrupt themselves. If Facebook isn’t evolving, building and taking risks, then they’re slowly dying. If Facebook relied on what worked for them 5 years ago, then they would be Yahoo, Twitter or Myspace instead of one of the world’s largest and most successful companies with a $365B market cap. In sales, there’s the aphorism, “every no is one step closer to a yes.” Failure often isn’t what you think it is.
什麼是失敗？如果你從一個失敗中吸取教訓，那它就不是失敗。臉書網的座右銘是：在失敗後快速汲取教訓。臉書網知道最大的失敗是不會進化，不破除障礙，以及不尋找方法來擾亂自己。如果臉書網不發展，建設和冒險，那麼他們正慢慢死亡。如果臉書網依靠5年前的工作內容，他們將會和雅虎、推特或聚友網一樣而不是世界上最大和最成功的公司之一，價值3650億美元市值。在銷售中，有句格言，“每一次失敗都讓你離成功更近一步。”失敗往往不是你所想的那樣不堪入目。

2. Understand Your Fear.
瞭解你的恐懼

What it is exactly you fear? We don’t all fear new things, taking risks, changing and growing for the same reasons. Fear of failure is driven because we imagine the worst or because we strive for perfection or because we desperately fear rejection. What is the worst that can happen? If we go out and start a business, we imagine that we’ll lose everything if we fail. Then what? Will you then not have friends and loved ones? Will you not have your family? Will you not have the same gumption and drive that compelled you to start a business in the first place? When you decide to move forward, you also make the decision to push through no matter what; and when you decide that, remarkable things happen.
你究竟害怕的是什麼？我們不都害怕新事物，同理對於冒險、改變和成長也一樣。對失敗的恐懼是我們自己引發出來的，因爲我們總是想象最壞的情況，或因爲我們追求完美，或因爲拼命害怕被拒絕。可能發生的最壞的情況是什麼？如果我們出去開始一項業務，我們會想到如果我們失敗了我們就會失去一切。那又如何？你會失去朋友和親人嗎？你會失去你的家人嗎？你會不會有同樣的勇氣和動力，驅使你在起初的地方重新創業？當你決定前進的時候，你也會做出決定，不管發生什麼事都會去克服它；當你下定決心的時候，奇蹟就會發生。

3. Counter Fear with Confidence.
用自信來對抗恐懼

Confidence comes from making a decision, making a commitment and sharing that pronouncement. The world responds and supports those who act and lead with confidence. No one is conspiring for your failure. When you take action with confidence and surety, the world will conspire to support you though. The right things will happen, the right circumstances and opportunities will present themselves.
信心來自於做決定，做出承諾和分享這一宣言。世界迴應並支持那些在做事和領導上充滿自信的人。沒有人會爲你的失敗出謀劃策。當你充滿信心地去行動時，全世界都會協力支持你。正確的事情會發生，正確的情況和機會也將會自己出現。

4. Take Action.
採取行動

Another cause of fear of failure is focusing on the enormity of the challenge. Look at a picture of Mt. Everest from Base Camp. It’s magnificent and imposing, and doesn’t look the least bit climbable. Add to that, the summit is racked by storms, -50 degree weather, and is utterly inhospitable. Yet hundreds of climbers summit every year. These climbers are most often not professional climbers or elite athletes, but ordinary hobbyists with a dream and a goal. And they all start the climb the same way, with a single step toward the summit. It’s sounds like cliche, but action becomes a habit. Small steps add up and soon you gather momentum and not long after that you’re unstoppable.
害怕失敗的另一個原因是專注於這項艱鉅的挑戰。從大本營看聖母峯的景象，它氣勢宏偉，看起來很難攀爬。再加上，山峯會受到風暴侵襲，零下50度的天氣，並且整座山峯完全是荒涼的。然而每年都會有數以百計的登山者登頂。這些登山者大都不是專業的登山者或優秀運動員，但有着普通愛好者的夢想和目標。他們都以同樣的方式開始攀登，一步一步走向山頂。這聽起來像陳詞濫調，但行動稱爲習慣。每一小步的疊加，很快就會聚集起動力，不久過後，你就是不可阻擋的。

5. Ignore the Fear.
忽視恐懼

In big wave surfing, surfer paddle into waves the size of 5 story buildings. It’s impossible for any human not to fear these waves. To counter what can be a paralyzing fear, many of the most elite big wave surfers avoid looking at the impact zone where the wave crashes because it wouldn’t instantly cripple them with fear, and they would never paddle for one of the waves. You’ll have many fears in life; some you can stare down and charge and others who’s lair you should tip top around.
在巨浪裏衝浪，衝浪者在5層建築物高的浪裏划槳。任何人都不可能不害怕這些大浪。針對什麼是恐懼，許多最優秀的衝浪者避免看巨浪拍擊的衝擊區，因爲這樣不會立即使他們害怕，他們也會避免在這樣的巨浪裏划槳。你會在生活中遇到很多的恐懼；有些你可以試着往下看並掌控它，有些泥潭你應該注意它的頂部周圍。

6. Challenge Yourself.
挑戰自己

Take on challenges in other areas of life outside of where you seek to grow. Ever wonder why triathlons, mud runs and marathons are so popular? People want to push their boundaries and see what they’re capable of. You build will power and drive. When you succeed at large goals in one area, you start to see that you can apply the same skills and determination to accomplish goals in other areas.
在你想要發展的地方以外的其他生活領域挑戰自己。知道爲什麼鐵人三項、泥地賽跑和馬拉松這麼受歡迎嗎？人們想突破他們的極限，看看他們還能做什麼。你培養着你的意志力和動力。當你在一個領域取得巨大的成功時，你開始看到，你可以用相同的技能和決心，在其他領域實現目標。

7. Debunk Fearlessness.
揭穿無畏

Successful people seem fearless and extraordinary; but that’s just how they’re perceived, and it becomes the myth that we perpetuate. Being brave isn’t living without fear; it’s living with [en]fear, confronting it and taking action in spite of is a very normal and inevitable part of being human, It’s a part of all of us. No one is truly fearless; they’ve just learned to embrace fear. In Games of Thrones when Robb Stark asks his father, “How can a man be brave when he’s afraid?” Ned Stark replies, “A man can brave only when he’s afraid.”
成功的人似乎是無畏和非凡的，但這只是我們認爲的，也成爲了我們延續的傳奇。勇敢並不是沒有恐懼地生活，而是儘管生活在恐懼中，但依然可以坦然面對它，並採取行動。生而爲人，恐懼是一種非常正常和不可避免的一部分，也是我們所有人的一部分。沒有人是真正的無畏，他們只是學會了擁抱恐懼。在《權力的遊戲》中，羅柏•史塔克問他的父親，“一個男人在感到害怕時怎麼才能勇敢起來？”奈德說：“一個人只有當他害怕的時候纔會變得勇敢。”